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Hi , I am a Sr software engineer working in wipro. Recently I am so tensed because of marriage, I want to get married but I am not able to maintain a stable connection with someone. I am from a delhi and belongs to a middle class family , we have grown from not even having plaster on my house walls to having a 4 floor 50gaz own house in delhi. I have seen times when my sister's don't even have slippers to wear. And because I have come from so low I am very down to earth , I don't do drink or smoke or do drugs. I always care for my family and in my school time use to walk a km to save 10rs , from today when I am having 25lpa package. I met a mumbai girl on shadi.com we talked for 7 months and it started with arguments to love and almost finalizing thing to time when she backout and said No. Now she is getting married somewhere and with me she had so many demands like I will not leave my friends , I will go party sometime , I will drink sometime and even though I don't do all these things ,I still asked her if she can do these in moderation I am fine but she never accepted anything, now today when she is getting married, she is getting married to a sub inspector 5 years elder to her. She didn't said a word to him and agreed for marriage. Now in my mind I was so stressed thinking if she could be so mindful of marriage then why she never said so in front of me when I asked and secondly if because of what happened between us , she became like this and killed her desires then I feel soo regret. Everyone I ask told me she was not the type of person I could handle she was very dominating, she expect things but when it comes to giving she says alot but never stick to her words. The best part in her was that she was very respectful to elders and helpful to even unknown. I asked her even basic basic things that will happen after marriage and her responses were fantastic but if I aske her to stop taking to her friends or if I don't like someone she just lost it and starts a fight. She lived in pg for her study in delhi few years back here she did everything, hukkah , smoke , alcohol , parties with very short dresses , and these parties were where she knows only few people and people were doing drugs and even threesome, if she was that senseable that like now she has given up on everything then why she didn't do it with me or if it was my fault that I have asked her and I should have belived that she will stop doing those things after marriage? I don't know if what happened was correct because of our choices or I should have given here more trust?

If you have money, leave India [non-political]

For those thinking if you have money, should you stay in India or move abroad, here are my two cents on this. People here know that I am a big believer in the India Growth story. The economic outlook today is much better than 10 years ago and extrapolating that makes it a great opportunity for the rest of us. Let’s say you are operating as a free agent, and look at things logically and without emotions. ( Why without emotions? Because emotions trump logic and will make you rationalize any illogical move) I have to accept that however great my country is, it isn’t great at everything. It could have the best mangoes but not the best wines and so on. This also applies to jobs, education and living. If you want to study mechanical engineering you go to Germany. For best B-Schools, you go to either EU/UK/US depending on what you want to achieve after that. Similarly the best CS programmes are in the US. Sure, IITs and IIMs are gems and punch above their weight. They have access to the most meritorious kids of that generation. But you have to accept that, they are certainly not at the same level as M7/Oxbridge or Stanford/MIT for Engg. The same expands to other things. In some ways, every country is chasing the same American standard of living for its citizens. This may or may not be possible for everyone in this world. So, if you are an individual and you eliminated every generational curse in your life for a moment. Then, you eliminated every constraint in your life. What would you choose to do? An intelligent answer is always: The best places for vacations The best places for food The best places to work The best places to study The best places to appreciate art The best places for X. And be okay with accepting that not all best places can be India. Not all best places have to be India. And it’s okay. We can get there. But if you have money, leave India to experience the best in X. For inspiration: DaVinci offers 2.26Cr for a Derivative Trader role at IIT Delhi.

I wanted to do Masters in Abroad

This is my first post, please ignore it if it's not structural. I completed my Bsc computer science and worked 2 yrs as a DevOps engineer in one big fintech company. Now at this moment I feel exhausted and burn out I need some change in life and moreover my graduation is completed in covid time , barely I went to college and led that college life and that too It's all Boys college, I don't have any college life. Now I want some change in life I wanna study masters but not in India I want to go to another country and feel that vibe, startup culture, more market exposure, new people and everything new. But I'm confused about what to study in masters. I am more into tech and motivated to build things and wanna build something . To study in foreign country I don't have much budget even to say I'm afraid to ask for money at home, they'll give even its 10-15Lacs but still I'm hesitant to ask. When I asked my friend about which country is best he immediately eliminated high budget countries like the US, UK & suggested Germany, Italy, Poland. Can anyone tell me which country and which universities are good in quality of education, more startup exposure, heavily practical and implementation learning rather than theory classes. There's one show Called "Industry" where graduates join the bank and start their career at a hedge fund trading desk and stuff, I like that stuff . I want to learn more tech and implement that into the real world, build things. I need like minded people around me . Did you get my point? I really really want to change my circle and be with like minded people and build things,try new things and figure out. First thing is which country is best, which universities, and which program should I take First if we select which program is the best I can figure out . I need brutal career advice at this moment Please help me with this .