How to deal with emotionally unavailable people especially your spouse or your girlfriend/boyfriend ?
It takes a toll on mental health each time we look like begging for the attention. They just don’t want to admit that they are hurting their partner or taking them for granted. It is terribly tough being in marriage or in relationship with such a person. How to deal with such partner and situation ?
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Stop watching american tv sitcoms. This whole emotional availablity nonsense is from them. If married, For a man there are 100s of problems. Financial pressure, social pressure, office pressure, we don't have the bandwidth to behave like the lover characters they show on TV.
Girlfriend/boyfriend - this is even bigger nonsense. having entered the professional world it not possible to keep talking/ messaging like it was done during college days. Singing and dancing around trees is not possible in real life. L
Expectations have to be real.
A bit harsh question, but do you have any side hustles/hobbies out of work? If not its time to find some, if you remain free you'll feel more like this.
I never watched any and my partner is like this from last 14 years even before marriage happened the contemporary used to behave the same it’s like my fate I chose the wrong one but now it’s marriage and family and I shouldn’t be the one who should always remind them they have a family too. So the solution to the problem is not just the partner has 1000s of problems the question here is they don’t even want to look after the family they have created isn’t it bad ?
It's me who has become emotionally detached. The reason is that I don't feel respected—my views and opinions seem irrelevant to her. I have fought again and again for what I want, but at this point, I've stopped trying.
I already know how things will go: we'll fight, then for a day or two everything will seem fine, and then the same pattern will repeat.
I don't want to open up to someone who doesn't value or respect me.
Please try to understand why he's behaving this way. Was it always like this from the beginning of your relationship, or did something happen that caused the shift? Try to understand what's really happening.
Also please stop complaining he will never change better u start appreciating if u think there is 1% of something he is doing right ,
Issue is most of the conversation end up with complaining the other person . And if he is introvert he has already gone thorough the conversation even before you started it in his mind .
Because for us we know the pattern , how it will start and end
It’s like this since the beginning and frankly speaking I have always appreciated that 1 % but now that 1% is dead
I’m really sorry you’re going through this—it sounds incredibly tough. If you’ve already tried talking to your spouse and nothing’s changed, that’s deeply concerning. When someone constantly shows they’re not interested in staying or meeting your emotional needs, it sends a strong message.
You deserve to be in a relationship where you're respected and valued, not one that sets a harmful example for your child. People make time for what they care about, and if your spouse keeps being distant, it’s okay to acknowledge that you might not be their priority.
Think about giving yourself a chance at a happier, healthier life. Being with someone emotionally unavailable wears you down—and you deserve love, care, and peace.
Thank you so much I am definitely thinking of making a decision for my better future.
Also, emotional connection is a basic human need. Dismissing it as unimportant overlooks the importance of trust and support in any relationship. Sure, unrealistic expectations can hurt, but ignoring all emotional needs and calling them impractical only creates distance and damage. Being under pressure is real, but so is the need for care, communication, and respect. Balance is key.
So many people gave you advice, but I'll give you one tough solution, get separated from such a partner. I bet you'll cry for many months or years but this emotional turbulence is not at all healthy for the whole life. Please understand happiness comes with peace! And it's very expensive and we have to pay a big price taking care of our peace and happiness. Lastly it'll be good for your child too. Because growing up with an emotionally unavailable parent is worse than having a single loving parent.
There's more to life lastly I'll say don't compromise on anything 😊 All the best whatever you choose for your life!
Thank you so much 😊 really appreciate your suggestion. I will give it a thought
I wish I’m wrong but here is my 2cents.. Women are usually emotional.. If you see they are not connecting enough, it’s possible she has connection elsewhere.. ask yourself if she spends more time with phone.. she focuses more on her looks.. you can look for other clues
Lot of screen time. Whenever asked they say I am researching something and they talk very gently with their friends and even with their relatives and cousins but here they always blame and shout at me and threaten for divorce each time.
Feel sorry for you but signs are indicating she has possible affair and laying out plan for her future.. Just try to get hold of the phone you will see how angry she becomes.. shouting is common during these time as they need to justify themselves what they are doing is right.. she wants to convince herself that she is miserable and have no other choice .. In case you can find evidence of cheating you can escape from alimony even if you plan for divorce..
14 years is a very long time to be putting up with this kind of a narcissistic and horrible partner, who doesn't even take the responsibility of his child. Don't know what the future of the child will look like if you continue tolerating this nonsense behavior of your husband.
Please gather some courage and leave as soon as possible. For a child, two separate but happy parents is much better than two unhappy and toxic parents living under the same roof.
You are financially stable, so no need to worry much.
And about society, don't pay any heed to their regressive thoughts and comments that would follow if you go for a divorce.
All the best to you and your child! ❤️
The cycle doesn’t stop my partner is very arrogant and egoistic so divorce is the final answer now
If married, focus on your self, your fitness, health, skincare. Pursue a hobby or two. This will keep you happy and occupied enough so you won’t crave for attention from them. If its just a relationship, then walk away, plenty fish in the water.
No time to focus on myself it’s just the family and work I focus about. I have to make time for myself
And what to do when you don't have any spouse/gf or even a single friend? , have u thought how folks like us are even living?
