Public Relations Specialist

Commitement Delay

I have been seeing this guy for the last 3.5 years. We talk everyday, he listens to all my stories all my dramas and helps me with all my difficult situations. He makes travel plans with me and if he is travelling somewhere he shares all his highs with me via video calls and texts. He is always there for me to the point that I have completely become dependent on him. Now whenever there is a situation my first instinct is to call him and am not able to calm down until I speak to him. But even though he is always there he is somehow also not there. I have never felt that he is very much in love with me. When we are together he will spend most of his time scrolling on phone. He will make sure I dont feel bad and or am always happy but I feel like he does so because he cares for me not loves me. I have been asking him to take the next step for marriage since a year now and since a year he is saying that he is 90% ready but something is stopping him. A month back i stopped talking to him because I felt he will never give me the commitment or love I need. Yesterday he called me and I asked him what is the 10% blockage and he said he has a fear that he might not always love me. What am I suppose to understand from this whole thing? What do I do?

Mahindra - MSDVC - Coimbatore - Work Culture

Too much Politics, even from small things like task allocation also politics. Good tasks and technologies which gives visibility will goes to their favorite people, too much toxic work environment, local politics and favoritism, caste-based discrimination particularly Coimbatore and other 4 surrounding districts people gets more importance and hikes more than 15% and Long-Term retention Bonus, others are avoided and not included in the e mail chains also, others are used for waste and useless tasks with no visibility which gives them no grip on project or career , so that they can't ask for good hikes and promotions. Even the developer who is working on the task is also not involved into the mail chain. Even if you fight for everything and get that work done, you will realize that your task credit will be taken by other Leads and Sr. Leads. You can never find why you don't get recognition from Leadership, because they avoid you from every call, meeting and other important information. so that you will be used for just used for work after that you will realize this by 2 years you will leave the company, middle leadership want this because they can take credit for your work. Finally new person come to your place with new hopes and dreams to work hard, this cycle repeats. Again, same strategy is used by Managers with help of Leads. If you try to compline HR, She also knows everything but acts like helping you and tell everything to manager , both HRs help only management, by reveling you identity and information to them, so that from next day they will target you. Everyone stops talking to you. They treat you like untouchable person. You need to suffer alone in this vacuum. Treatment starts for you by changing requirements for every day and monitoring start like minute by minute. All their supporters help them to target you. good luck fighting with this mind game. particularly even going for breaks is monitored with timings also monitored. highly toxic leadership. They only pay for 8 hrs and ask you to work for 16 to 17 hrs for free with out recognition and identity. All mangers expect you to lift their calls even in nighttime 11 clock and weekends also by saying this is manufacturing company not an American or European software company. Too much shouting on calls and disrespecting humans on face in local language with bad words. They create a pyramid structure with one node point between manager and team (only local women with less skills will be selected) because they will listen to them and given all powers so they can manage teams and do all yes works for the management without saying no. all hikes and promotions and opportunities for them. Men with moral should suffer here. Most of the department heads are from Coimbatore Boshe and visteon. They are all good at politics and very bad at technical skills. CAUTION: They ask you to stay in 3-star hotel for 21 days for lateral entry and 40 days for freshers, its cost is so inflated by 2 times, and when you want to leave before 2 years they will ask you to pay all hotel bills , transportation charges , relocation changes etc back to them . so that you will stay at least 2 year when you can't pay back. Remember nothing is free money, if it is free, you are the product. **** 90 days notice period , you need to clock 9.5 hours in notice period otherwise Loss of pay. you can't take leaves. Full and final settlement is also big mind-bending game here. 1)very too much narrow-minded leaders and managers who want visibility from top leadership just trying to steal lower-level employees work to show cases as it their work. 2)They hire only local people with below average skills and poor in communication so that can't jump the company immediately so that developers will listen to them and work for them due to lack of other opportunity. unless you are a fresher hired across India from central team its hard other people will not be selected. Even central team also knows this , that why for all freshers will be rolled out given same standard hikes and promotion without difference. First year completion standard hike 10 % and 2 nd year 15 % with promotion. very rare cases like posh and attitude issues only promotions are denied. 3)Leave policy is a systematic scam in this company by wanted not reveling to the employees. 1 year - no leaves only 10 privileged leaves. but if you want you need, take advanced leaves, that is from next year. 4) only 5 leaves only carry forwarded. all 18 leaves will be lapse in that calendar year. 5) Comp off is to use with in 3 months from the date you earned. to get comp off you need to earn more than 7.5 hours. 6)Salary pay structure another numbers magic, like Ad hoc pay and Total PF employer contribution is also included in CTC along with gratuity. you will get 12 to 15% less take home than your expected calculation. 7)Insurance is very limited and less amount like 2 lacs, parents and children are not included, you need to pay extra separately for that. 8)they make sure Cab facility is bad, so that you can plan your commute. 9)No help from management and company to upskills yourself, Like certifications and courses. They don't share any little information that helps you to grow. because if you learn you will ask for hike and work not provided you will leave the company right. so that help you to upskill, at least this true for Coimbatore branch. 10)Freshers need to realize this toxic culture and need to jump the ship as soon as possible. 11)2 to 8 years Experienced folk also need to focus one technology and master the interview skills to jump the ship. 12)plex pay amount 25 rupees per working day will be give if you clock 7.5 hour and above for every 3 or 4 months. 13)Full and final settlement is full of deductions you will be ghosted for months from finance department until last day. https://www.ambitionbox.com/reviews/mahindra-automotives-reviews?rid=76256148&utm_source=ambitionbox&utm_campaign=share&utm_medium=mobile

Software Engineer + SDM Marriage?

I am a software engineer and my parents received a call from a girls family. Both our native places are the same. We have grown up with same set of values. Everything looks damn perfect except for 1 thing. She is a SDM in same state. This is a good point for me as it shows her hardworking nature by cracking a tough exams. Even I am looking for someone who has been really hard working at some point in there life. But thus public sector job has its cons as well, which is transfers and postings to different places within same state. We are now talking since past week. She says she will try getting her transfer done to my place after marriage and that it is possible as well. She gives me example of her colleagues where private and public sector combination worked out. I also feel convinced many times but some days I feel like I will be restricting my job opportunities in other places. My place of work gets automatically constraint to my current one. Although it is closer to my hometown and eventually I plan to settle there. But always in my life I have kept my options open for place and company I work at. Being an SDM has its attraction I agree but it is this aspects which is playing a negative role for me. In my family everyone is a private sector employee and those who were in public sector have shifted to private as well. For her everyone in her family is government job holder. Please suggest what should I do as our parents would need some answer from me. She will have same setup with any other person so she doesn't have much to ask me, it is me who asks about our future setup is going to workout.