Unable to connect with people on a deeper level, feeling detached.
Growing up, having seen quite a bit of hostility in my life, in my family, in the neighbourhood and then having mental health issues later on, that now even though the things have settled down quite a bit, the peace doesn't feel comfortable or rather it feels unfamiliar and I feel that I still can't connect with people in the office and in general.
I'm very detached in general and don't seem to be able to have fun. Don't know what to do.
Feels like that hostility was the normal, although I didn't like it and don't want it in my life.
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Honestly the whole “can’t connect with people” thing? That’s super normal , You’ve been in survival mode for so long, your brain’s still scanning the room for red flags, not vibes.
No need to force fun or fake it till you make it. Just take it slow, ya. Like: • Find one chill person you vibe with even 1%. • Do one small thing that used to make 10-year-old you smile (even if it’s silly). • Give your brain evidence that not everything’s a battlefield anymore.
Also, fun doesn’t have to look like what Insta shows. Maybe fun for you is just being left alone with nice snacks and no noise. That’s 100% valid.
You’re not behind. You’re not weird. You’re just learning how to feel safe again. One awkward office interaction at a time.
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I believe the hostility is a consequence partly of being a low-trust society and partly of our culture. In this dog-eat-dog environment, people are constantly on edge and struggling for survival, and their emotions manifest in their interactions with each other.
What you wrote is very relatable though, I too am struggling with the feeling of detachment. I think I have strategies to turn this mindset (if one can call it that) around, but it's yet to be put to test.
My DMs are open if there's anything you'd like to talk about :)
