... by Brene Brown.
I was curious to read this, because I'm fascinated by both the terms, Trust & Brene Brown (repetitively people recommended me to read her & I bought two books - yet to read, though, sad :/ )
It's a nice read especially how trust is built in those "sliding moments" - yesss for sure. And how we should be so specific with what we say, not just with trust, but in general.. I've seen my relationship with other people have improved a lot when I specifically say what I like about them, specific details, and what I don't - very specific.
I was surprised that when you say specific things, how patiently they listen (and feel special) and how when I say things I didn't like, how they listen and improve, isn't it great?
Instead of just saying.. I don't trust you... why not, I don't trust you because you did something that you told you wouldn't, you are not reliable, and I can't trust you.
Highlights:
- Trust is built in very small moments. [Sliding door moments]
- I trust him because he’ll ask for help when he needs it.
- We’ve got to really share our stories and our hard stuff with people whose jars are full, people who’ve, over time, really done those small things that have helped us believe that they’re worth our story.
- Trust is choosing to make something important to you vulnerable to the actions of someone else.
- BRAVING: Boundaries, Reliability, Accountability, Vault, Integrity, Non-judgment, Generosity
- So the Vault is not just about the fact that you hold my confidence, in our relationship, but also about how you hold the confidence of other people.
- Maya Angelou says, "Be wary of the naked man offering you a shirt." that is “I don’t trust people who don’t love themselves, but say I love you.”