Need help finding a solution to anxiety

By thinking "This is not permanent, I can always switch to a different company in a year"

Brother, before doing anything start physical activity, exercise, walking jogging whatever possible 3-4 times a week. No medicine can come close to physical activity. Try introspecting with clear mind why do you feel all that. No one knows you better than you, so take out time. And also start eating clean if not doing already.

These things are reminder of stuff we have been used to ignore

I have faced something similar for quite some time. Anxiety attacks last from minutes to days.

Usually the reason for anxiety attacks is the combination of not so friendly people around you, that breaks your confidence at work, and poor "gut" feeling as you keep on digesting hostile surroundings for long.

There's also a lack of vitamin d and b12 levels that come at play to worsen the anxiety attacks.

You need to decompress a bit in life, many suggestions are quite on point.

• Walking
• Weight training
• Good food
• Friends chut chat outside your job
• Bharamari pranayama ( this one is very effective)
• And last but not least, art of not giving a fuck.

Sooner you realise that your lack of existence could be easily addressed by a company, you'd work without any burdens.

Your family needs you more than your workplace. So take a chill pill.

You will survive these episodes, just stick to a healthy routine from given suggestions.

Do check b12, d3 levels and take pills if necessary, and do take magnesium gummies a few hours before sleeping.

Don't worry you are not alone, many in this demanding sector suffer from toxic workplaces.

Speak to a counsellor, looks like your anxiety now has grown which manifests into physical symptoms. It’s quite normal, a few therapy sessions and you’ll be fine

My cope is my FIRE number . Thinking i am not here for the long run

Buddy consult a doctor preferably a therapist. There are medications that can help you. Even talking sessions help too.

Start exercising too. If possible take a break from work for 15 days.

There are multiple things that you can do , this is something I had faced 3-4 years ago when I was in engineering.

1. Start focusing on things that are in your hand.
2. Do physical activity like exercise/ Yoga, if you are hindu be little bit religious like go tample and listen some bhajan it will definitely help you , Remember that always keep faith in God .
3. Company and people of company are just your colleagues who are working with you they only can fire you nothing more than that if you are healthy from mind you will get multiple way to come out from it. So start giving less important to all head / boss. For me bhajan and pooja help a lot and now I am in better shape.

The discussion makes you feel it, try to understand the reason of it -

1. Are you unable to understand what these people are saying in technical terms or business terms. If it is technical , study the tools and research them more. If it is business, try to talk to more people about the business, get high level understanding of every area of the business

2. Do you feel out of place because of something ? What seems to be the issue- talk to yourself and find out. Sometime we are aware of these things but cannot accept it due to something or the other

See if it can make your head clear, or give you a path.

What's the root cause of it? Maybe try finding it out. I felt the same whenever I had joined new firms and I was the one knowing the least of all and was keeping myself under pressure. Do you think your boss and counterparts are technically or otherwise stronger than you? Is that intimidating you? Are you overthinking if you screw up what will happen etc? Do you have a lot more responsibilities than you can handle?
You should also talk to a psychologist, some offices sponsor free consultation also. They do help to get the root cause and fix it. Do meditation, yoga, exercises also. If you are a Hindu then start worshipping Hanuman ji. Good luck.

Let me tell you about two very powerful things in life. Two very small, very easy yet very powerful. I don't know of anyone who has a successful and fulfilling life without these two simple things.

1. Being greatful.

• dont make the mistake of counting the positives of your life. Being grateful is not about being positive.
• its about giving a moment of thought about what you have. It can be as big as I have a wife to love and kids to play with to as simple as back feels good when I lay on my bed and my water bottle can hold water.
• Never over do it, never try hard about it. Your greatfulness should flow like water. If for some reason you are unable to do it at the moment, try after sometime but don't stress yourself.
• If you are able to do it, never make the mistake of over doing it (don't chase the golden goose)

If you do the above, eventually you will fell so powerful that even in the face if death you won't break.

2. Focus

• True focus is about focusing your mind and body only on one thing. Kill multitasking, it is the root of all useless thoughts.

• If you are brushing/eating/bathing etc, put your mind and body to it. Dont think about work/wife/kids/pet/movie/songs/etc. Unless there is danger/emergency, every fucking thing in this world can wait. Let those things wait.

• Again, don't try hard, don't try to see eveybit of detail in what you are doing, don't try to understand the meaning of what you are doing. Don't try to use 100% of your brain. Do them normally but your mind should not wander.

Why these two you ask?

The 2nd one trains your brain to eliminate useless thoughts - anxiety is nothing but a wandering mind - control it while doing small things - it will be in control while doing all things

The 1st one gives you power to do the 2nd one.