TwirlyWaffle
TwirlyWaffle

Marriage with Hyper Career focused Girl

Can anyone help with Pros and Cons of marrying hyper career focused girl? If someone married such a girl - how did it turn out? Hyper Career focused - Priortizes Job over Family life.

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TwirlyBiscuit
TwirlyBiscuit

If you're earning well, don't marry a working girl... if you're not earning that much, then first earn well and still don't marry a working girl

SnoozyHamster
SnoozyHamster

Oh damn. Why?

TwirlyBiscuit
TwirlyBiscuit

The only man she needs in her life is her husband, not her boss, not her male friends. A wife needs to take care of kids, in laws, it's her duty to be in command of house and it's man job to make money and protect family.

CosmicLlama
CosmicLlama

Depends on the career. If she is professional who can be self employed (like doctor/lawyer/CA.CS) then go ahead. Anything else run. If she is a software engineer, run faster. Dont look back , just run .

WobblyMuffin
WobblyMuffin

🤣

TwirlyWaffle
TwirlyWaffle

She is a CA but does not want to start own practice.

MagicalQuokka
MagicalQuokka

IMO, one of the major objectives of marriage is starting a new family (ideally with kids but not necessarily).

If family is second priority for someone, it could not be more misaligned with the objectives of marriage.

Being hyper-focussed on anything, by the definition of hyper-focussed, usually means everything else suffers. If you're hyper-focussed on family, your career responsibilities would suffer. If you're hyper-focussed on career, your family responsibilities would suffer.

So if you're not looking for someone to build a family with, marriage with such a girl might work out. Otherwise, it would be pretty challenging IMO.

ZoomyLlama
ZoomyLlama
PayU20mo

Pros You can lead a much better quality of life given double income You can also save more and retire faster if north of you are well qualified and earn well Your wife will not be overly clingy and will have a social life outside of you and your circle

Cons Your should share equal responsibility of running the household and family - keeping the home clean, day to day boring chores like laundry, cooking, etc hand also raising kids You don’t have a painfully over scarifying nauseating wife (I don’t consider this a con, but based on your question, many might). You don’t have a cheerleader, you have a teammate, so you need to learn if you don’t know already to respect her as one

TwirlyWaffle
TwirlyWaffle

I am okay with Career oriented. Here she is hyper Career focused.

JumpyHamster
JumpyHamster

Our generation (friends will tolerate a hyper career focused women).

But it's the parents gen and societal pressure you have to defend and overcome.

Having a working partner with high earnings gives you the leverage to take higher risk(startup, etc)

TwirlyWaffle
TwirlyWaffle

Agreed but what if she does not share the vision of co-building.

JumpyHamster
JumpyHamster

You clarify and align. Make it work. Marriage is all about balance and adjustment.

GroovyBoba
GroovyBoba

If both parties are hyper focussed on work then they and everyone around them will just suffer tbh

CosmicQuokka
CosmicQuokka

different strokes for different folks, tumhe jisme doubt hai usse dur raho,

ZoomyMuffin
ZoomyMuffin

Depends if you want to have kids and start a family.

Also, get to know what she is seeking from here career/struggle? Is it money, promotions, position in the corporate, or just the game/passion. The person should be clear about why they work hard to sacrifice on other things.

If you are not okay with her putting in all the hours, don't go for it. In case it doesn't work out later, fights and everything, she might label you as the roadblock in her ambitions.

TwirlyWaffle
TwirlyWaffle

Mostly Position and Money.

FluffyCupcake
FluffyCupcake
Amazon20mo

Hyper-activity anywhere/any field is dangerous.

FluffyKoala
FluffyKoala

Don’t marry.

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