I'm a 25 years old software engineer from noida talking to someone in an arranged marriage setup.
She's also 25, Analyst, living in Noida and has been in a 6 year relationship ending things LAST YEAR with her boyfriend with no claimed contact thereafter. Although the ex is also in Noida.
We have met 4 times, she's from the same hometown and our basic compatibility and life goals and nature seem to be on the same side to me. In short here things seem very good.
I myself was in a couple of relationships both of which were a few months long and including physical intimacy.
So I don't have a problem with her past or her not being a virgin, however I wanted the experienced folks here to guide me that should I move forward with someone who has been in such a long relationship with someone?
She assures me that there's no feelings or trauma there, although the guy broke up with her over petty things. But I'm afraid WHAT IF:
- she still loves him or feelings might surface later.
- she considers me to be a settlement because she was not able to marry her 1st preference
- she remembers the physical intimacy with him and doesn't enjoy our intimacy
- think of leaving if he wants to get back together again.
Both side parents are asking an answer now.
Please help me understand if I'm being plain paranoid or should I look for safer options or how can I understand if she's actually over him.