Engaged đź’Ťđź’” but...
I am keeping it short.
I got engaged last year. Everything was going good until I came to know that see had a boyfriend and they even kissed.
I am continuously overthinking since then. FYI, I don't had any relationship in past and I wanted the same but.
Not only this, the girl once told me that her ex loves more than me and they were perfect.
See is still in love with him. I even asked her before our engagement that If she likes me or not and her response was positive.
I don't know what to do. Sometimes I think I should accept everything because her parents health are not good and move on and sometimes I cry and scream inside.
She is a good girl btw.
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Break it off. What does she mean her ex loves her more than you do? Then why is she marrying you? THIS IS A SUPER BIG RED FLAG.
If this were a relationship, it wudnt matter. But marriage is most important decision in a man's life. Given what's happening around 498A etc with laws against you, you are taking a very big risk needlessly.
Exactly this will be the correct approach for sure. She will ruin your mental health @kwarty if she does think that her chemistry with her ex is better than you. Think twice about your parents as well bro.
Hey @kwarty How old are you? And how old is she? Also what are both of your backgrounds?
Your matter is serious as it relates to arranged marriage. So my previous comment might have been without understanding your context.
But what I know is this... Most people have relationships and nothing wrong with that. But before the wedding, you shud have been out of contact with whatever ex and moved on for atleast 6M-2Y. Contact with exes especially during AM phase is Not acceptable. Having feelings for ex and then getting into AM is pure cruel and emotional cheating.
It is not your burden to understand your AM fiancé's past and to know whether he story is genuine. But the second as you tie the knot, it will be. It's unfair. It's cruel. But right at this stage, you have an option to not walk it. You can call off the engagement or postpone the wedding saying you need time to think.
She likes you and she still loves her ex. Hmm. What can go wrong?!
What you need is mentorship. Reach out to her ex and take some tips. Maybe that will help. Then ask your fiancee to evaluate you quarterly and track the progress. Ensure you are getting 360 degree feedback as well (from her friends and family)
Otw, hit the gym and do back exercises. Once you have developed and strengthened your spine, break it off.
@DhenchuDhenchu such a constructive feedbackđź‘Ś
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Lol... "Good girl btw"...
'Good girl' in the sense a good human being
Do you think in all these sucide cases did the men marry bad girls? All those so called good girls change their true colours after marriage and become bad girls….good girl is a fucking myth these days!
Red flag, end it, it's going to ruin your marriage
Have an open and honest conversation with her.
If you think she can move on then give her the time and space to do so.
If you think she still loves him and can't move on, then you have to move on.
Hey,
no one can unlove anybody from everyone if they are in true love. this is not how love works
i been to 9 relationships but still not forget the first one. i still love her.
trust action. check if she is still contact her ex. if not then its + sign, if its negative
talk about you insecurities with each other before its get too late. at age of 22, she also confused as you are.
embrace open communication. tell her comfort her
please don’t scare her.
its you two people, how you will navigate through life.
@kwarty please read my comment, after seeing all negative comments. people are judging her without any cause.
remember trust actions.
“until I came to know that see had a boyfriend and they even kissed.”
I can’t tell if this is sarcasm because this seems straight out of a comedy show. What kind of mega-incel shit is this? Are you still in school? Your profile does say you are a student which would explain things, but how are you engaged then?
But yes, if you prefer a kissless virgin, then that’s your preference and nobody should question you for it. No matter how weird it is.
Also, saying that her ex loved her more than you is very weird on her part unless you asked her explicitly.
i have just written student.
its not sarcasm, i might have portrayed it wrong.
and she told that her ex loves more without me asking explicitly
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Better leave while u you can my bruh , this is big red flag and all and u are saying she still post's these all sad sht status wat more proof do you need, again her parents are nothing to you first prioritize yourself and your family, leave while u can and end the relationship before she gives you the Green hat.
this is gonna turn out pretty bad in future.