I come from a lower middle-class family. Since childhood, I fought hard to study, and my efforts paid off when I got into a tier-1 college for graduation. Now, I work in Bangalore. About 4 years ago, I met a girl, "A". “A” also comes from a lower middle-class family. Initially, I entered the relationship with a casual mindset, unaware of the challenges ahead.
“A” slowly pushed our conversations towards marriage slowly, and whenever I resisted, she abused me and my family, threatened me with legal action and police involvement, and even threatened to contact my family or commit suicide. Conflict and drama have always been difficult for me to handle, and I usually prefer to avoid them out of fear, even if it costs me a lot. Her threatening behavior made the situation even more overwhelming. “A” does not have a good relationship with her family and she lives in delhi. Initially she told me she wanted a government job. Out of a sense of helping her, I gave her money, hoping it would improve her life. One thing to notice is that She never spent money recklessly.
Over time, My own responsibilities kept on piling up. I have my sister's marriage to think about, ongoing family conflicts, and my career is on the rocks. My health is also deteriorating, and I recently developed high blood pressure and anxiety. She is now forcing me into a court marriage. I was initially ignorant of the gravity of the situation, thinking it would resolve itself over time. I hoped she would come to her senses and choose a different path. However, her threats and the potential legal ramifications scared me after watching/reading how much legal power girls hold. I didn't want my career or family life to be ruined by legal troubles.
Now, she pressures me daily for a court marriage. I find myself complying just to avoid conflict, as she has become adept at fighting and manipulating situations. She did wrong in relation that doesn’t mean whatever I did was ethically right. and I dont know how to fix