SquishyPickle
SquishyPickle

I fucked up my own life.

I come from a lower middle-class family. Since childhood, I fought hard to study, and my efforts paid off when I got into a tier-1 college for graduation. Now, I work in Bangalore. About 4 years ago, I met a girl, "A". “A” also comes from a lower middle-class family. Initially, I entered the relationship with a casual mindset, unaware of the challenges ahead. “A” slowly pushed our conversations towards marriage slowly, and whenever I resisted, she abused me and my family, threatened me with legal action and police involvement, and even threatened to contact my family or commit suicide. Conflict and drama have always been difficult for me to handle, and I usually prefer to avoid them out of fear, even if it costs me a lot. Her threatening behavior made the situation even more overwhelming. “A” does not have a good relationship with her family and she lives in delhi. Initially she told me she wanted a government job. Out of a sense of helping her, I gave her money, hoping it would improve her life. One thing to notice is that She never spent money recklessly. Over time, My own responsibilities kept on piling up. I have my sister's marriage to think about, ongoing family conflicts, and my career is on the rocks. My health is also deteriorating, and I recently developed high blood pressure and anxiety. She is now forcing me into a court marriage. I was initially ignorant of the gravity of the situation, thinking it would resolve itself over time. I hoped she would come to her senses and choose a different path. However, her threats and the potential legal ramifications scared me after watching/reading how much legal power girls hold. I didn't want my career or family life to be ruined by legal troubles. Now, she pressures me daily for a court marriage. I find myself complying just to avoid conflict, as she has become adept at fighting and manipulating situations. She did wrong in relation that doesn’t mean whatever I did was ethically right. and I dont know how to fix

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ZippyMochi
ZippyMochi

Keep proof of things, record if possible, and get in touch with Deepika Narayan Bharadwaj on insta or Twitter. She helps guys with cases like these, has contacts with lawyers.

GroovyPanda
GroovyPanda
Student13mo

This would absolutely help you.Deepika narayan bharadwaj fights for Victim Men & has a lot of experience ! 🔥

TwirlyMuffin
TwirlyMuffin
Uber13mo

do you guys really think this guy is victim here ? the girl is asking for marriage not asking him to give her some money and she will leave him. if it was a casual relationship he should have told her before getting into the relationship, maybe then she would have stayed away in the first place. Yeh bhaiya ladki ghumayenge , usko use karenge aur chod ke chale jayenge and u r expecting the girl to do nothing about it? read his post again. if a girl does something like this she will named a b*t**, s**t and what not. I know sometimes men are also victim, but especially this case doesn’t look like that to me.

PrancingNugget
PrancingNugget

The legal power women gain after marriage is much greater than what they have before. So if you think she is not good for your mental health, address the issue now and avoid marriage for sure.

SparklyBiscuit
SparklyBiscuit
Tekion13mo

Collect evidence against her then if required involve lawyer and police.

GroovyBoba
GroovyBoba

And run don't forget run.

WobblyLlama
WobblyLlama

Arey bhai itna kyu daarte ho, usko bolo Jo karna hai kar le.. haar jagah se block maaro

PrancingNugget
PrancingNugget

Haha tell me you don't know about Indian laws

WobblyLlama
WobblyLlama

Tell me you don't know about bribing 😛

SquishyNugget
SquishyNugget
Dunzo13mo

That's why staying single and alone will save you from multiple disasters (especially the lower middle class)

MagicalKoala
MagicalKoala

True 💯

PerkyWaffle
PerkyWaffle

Kya hi chal raha hai iss duniya mee yaaro....more power to u bro

SparklyCupcake
SparklyCupcake

Lawyer up and don’t give in! It’s better to fight this legally than to live with her forever!

DerpyMochi
DerpyMochi

Don't even think about marriage. A married woman has even more legal power. Consult with a lawyer, maybe hire a PI to gather evidence. If she files a complaint now it will get difficult but after marriage your life will become hell.

DerpyTaco
DerpyTaco

Have you ever promised her that you would marry her? I know the law is mostly towards girls. But, according to law if you promised her to marry and had intercourse with consent, only then she can take legal action. If you have not promised her of marriage, she can't force you be legal means

ZippyHamster
ZippyHamster
Gojek13mo

How this gets proven and who has to prove this?

DerpyTaco
DerpyTaco

Boy or the girl can prove it. Basically any person who can convince the court wins

JazzyUnicorn
JazzyUnicorn
HCL13mo

All people recommending, "collect evidence". What exactly is a valid evidence? Is video with audio considered a valid evidence in court? Can court reject it as an evidence citing it could be AI modified... I am just curious what all things would qualify as a valid evidence in OP's case.

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