How Do I Handle Pressure from My Absent Mother?
My mother left me when I was 3 years old. A few years back, when I was in the final year of college, she managed to find me. At first, it felt good to see her again, but I couldn’t really connect with her. Over the years, the distance between us only grew.
Now, I’m well-settled with a good-paying job, and she has her own family including two daughters from her second marriage. She’s been pressuring me to become part of her family, sometimes even throwing tantrums and reminding me that she gave birth to me.
The truth is, I was raised by my grandmother, not my parents. I was never close to my father either, as he didn’t raise me. Because of this, I don’t feel the bond she expects me to have with her.
How can I handle this situation?
I cannot really be in your shoes. However, if I only put myself in your shoes, I will have pent up anger for sure towards someone who abandoned me. And I would be questioning their motives to come back in my life.
Are they having remorse for what they did? Why did they do it?
I may choose to forgive them and never be associated with them.
However it's easier said than done. I ma sure you are going through a lot.
You should go with your instincts but after vetting the intensions and more.
I won't suggest you to be a part of your mother's family. She is selfish, she didn't care about you when you needed her the most and as you said she has 2 daughters, her daughter will be married one day so now she is looking for you (I dont know your gender but incase you are a boy) so that you can take care of her in her old age still she is thinking about herself only. How can a mother leave her 3 year old kid? Heartless
Wow dude what a story, I don't know what to say maybe build your own world and just be connected to your mom.
