Had an arrange marriage family visit us...
I had a girl's family visit us at our house for in an arranged marriage setup for the first time.
The only thing they asked me was about my job and my salary. They even asked to see my salary slip. Which felt really weird to me.
Nothing about what are my future plans, what are my other interests.
And they did not even ask it in a polite manner. Just straight up said "Salary slip dikhao".
Am I wrong to find this weird or just overthinking this ?
Is it common these days to ask for salary slip on first meeting from the guy ?
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Salary slip is usual to be asked, though should be done in polite manner. At least you got asked on a personal visit, many folks ask to send it even before visiting. I believe the better thing to ask is Salary Bank Account Number, since at least it avoids transfer of any document.
Asking for salary is usual, checking it against the salary slip is not. Can i ask the weight or vital statistic of the bride and then measure it? will the world accept it?
This is a family of gold diggers.. Gold diggers is a decent term in from of them.
In love marriage also they asked me for 3 yrs salary slip, I move out and did arrange marriage peacefully with no question asked
Why did the girl not step in?
Damn 3 years?
In arranged marriages, asking for salary slips isn’t shocking — families treat it like a due diligence exercise. When mediators hype up earnings, obviously the other side will want verification. If income is being projected as a selling point, don’t be surprised when it gets audited.
The problem isn’t verification — it’s the entire process. Arranged marriage often feels more like shopping in a garment store: compare options, check the “specifications,” negotiate, finalize. Families treat people like profiles to evaluate — salary, height, complexion, package — as if they’re scanning product tags.
You are feeling bad just because they ask for salary slip. Think about the girl now. What happens to her confidence when people will judge her on her height, weight, skin color, cooking skills etc.
Arrange marriage is shitty process.
True
Just wanna ask where are u from ? Bihar
In Bihar they dont ask... they just pakadua...
in Bihar they give good gifts also
Bro the mediator comes and tells to walk and show, checks all the fingers of toes and hands and then asks questions like whether I can earn after marriage or not? Well I have such anger issues I could have smashed his head the way he behaved but unfortunately I am not yet trained in MMA, once I get the training then let's see how it goes!!
You don't need training to knock a mf out
mkc aise families kii u won’t die but get a good ones only
Don't be unduly worried, world has many ppl who would fake their salary, company where they work etc.your interest should be on the girl you plan to marry. If she is fine, you will be fine. Move to an other location if you get trouble from inlaws.
This is an arranged marriage situation right. What else were you expecting. The arranged marriage process is mostly just a transactional convenience. In today's world where people are just deceitful, they are just making sure that u actually do have a job. Like it or not , your entire worth depends on what u earn. Your other interests??? Seriously uill be lucky if u get a partner through this arrangement who even cared about these things.