Girlfriend will throw me out of house because I cry
I make: ~15L (after commissions) :: Sales She makes: 18L (Base) :: Engineer
We met in college and I got a D0 placement. She used to support me (physically, emotionally, spiritually, sexually) and I used reciprocate these feelings as well. I always thought that we were a match made in heaven and that she was my true soulmate.
We moved in together last month and all was going good. She used to come home before me and early on she did more chores than I did(I know it was my fault). I am working 2x harder than her and she has the audacity to question my effort. I always try very hard to do my part of the chores (cleaning dishes/cooking meals for us for breakfast) but she always put me down.
I got flashbacks of my mom hitting my dad and how he had to face my mom's wrath. This triggered some trauma I held inside me. I started weeping because of my pressure at both work and home.
My girlfriend told me that she will throw me out of our house if I did not man up. What should I do now?
Unhealed trauma surfaces in relationships that we hold dear.Have you spoken to her about this past trauma?Seek therapy if required, take a break, this has nothing to do with Manning up or throwing each other out. Be direct with your communication and yes self respect and respect is more important in relationships.
One of those rare instances when the trash throws the person out of the house instead of the other way around. You deserve better dude.
You throw her first. If it's your house. Or leave that place immediately. Take action now. Unhealed trauma of past just comes back. Face it and remove it take professional help
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I know it's difficult but you have to be man. But, as you have highlighted your trauma, even man gets such emotions due to some bad situations they ve experienced in his life. Try to explain her about it and get her agree on living a peaceful life as you both are working and no-one else to support your emotions except you both for each other. Both have to be present for each other and yes man and women both are more than a kid infront of each other, when in an emotional relationship i.e. as partner that's how they enjoy the most. The goal of life is not only about earning in huge figures but to enjoy it equally.Also, If she is out of her native town for the first time... she might have got distracted or attracted towards someone else, might be a reason she is behaving improperly with you. Usually, most of the small town women's have such issues. Try to figure out the cause and give your best to fix it instead of ruining your relationship. If it doesn't works in case of second case, I hope should not be the case, then you have no option other than convincing youself to move forward. Hope, you have a good life 👍
This answer shows maturity. I am glad you have discovered the truth.
