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CosmicBoba
CosmicBoba
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Gf cheated, I found out much later

I know what to do, but i cant bring myself to do it. Context:

  • Gf cheated, continuous cheating
  • I found out 8-9 months later
  • In between i broke up with herand she convinced me to give it another try, but didnā€™t tell the truth.
  • I confronted, she confessed
  • I left, she threatened to end her life.
  • We started talking after that, now shes saying she learned her mistake, to take a leap pf faith and trust her again.

I want to know your thoughts and opinions, or what would you have done.

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GigglyJellybean
GigglyJellybean
Stealth1mo

If(Gf looks Good and No Other GFs possible rn): Accept and give it a try Else :
F*ck her and find some other person

CosmicBoba
CosmicBoba
Stealth1mo

Damn, No bullshit, straight to the pointšŸ˜‚

ZippyMochi
ZippyMochi
Stealth1mo

She's not going to harm herself, just typical emotional blackmail. Ignore, break up and move on. You know you want to, looking for more reasons or validation isn't really going to help.

There's a chance she improves genuinely, but there's also a chance she doesn't. Upto you to decide if it's worth the risk, time and energy compared to finding a new partner.

CosmicBoba
CosmicBoba
Stealth1mo

Thanks!

DizzyBoba
DizzyBoba
Stealth1mo

"She's not going to harm herself, just typical emotional blackmail"

  • Bhai itna confidence se kaise bol rhe ho aap
SwirlyNugget
SwirlyNugget
IBM1mo

Remember once a snake is always a snake! Leaveā€¦

JumpyPretzel
JumpyPretzel
Stealth1mo

You have already made up your mind, havenā€™t you? Or at least you seem to be preferring one option already. Why ask just to get confirmation from strangers?

CosmicBoba
CosmicBoba
Stealth1mo

Im in a buridanā€™s ass kinda situation right now.

SquishyBoba
SquishyBoba
Stealth1mo

ā€œCheated continuously and then threatened with suicide.ā€ Run as fast as you can after making your side safe. (Just in case she really ends her life)

WigglyUnicorn
WigglyUnicorn
Stealth1mo

You already know what to do man, stop giving in to your comfort zone...

PerkyWaffle
PerkyWaffle
Stealth1mo

Since she accepted her mistake now ask her to deal with consequences.

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MagicalCupcake
MagicalCupcake
Deloitte11d

Leave her. Once a cheater always a cheater.

FloatingUnicorn
FloatingUnicorn
Stealth23d

Once a cheater always a cheater. It's like once you've tasted blood, you cannot stop.

She might not cheat the 2nd time per se if you end up with her, but the primary reason why she cheated on you might resurface and compel her to cheat again or break up. My advice: stay away.

SqueakyWalrus
SqueakyWalrus
Stealth27d

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Never forget.

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