I understand what you mean and I’m with you @MutedFlow57
I think it’s more of a philosophical question, whether things in our scope of control are more important than things that aren’t.
One cannot change how others speak to oneself but maybe one can change how they feel about something.
I think it’s purely a question of what is more important to oneself in life and whether those things are worth fighting over.
There are no right or wrong answers here, just one’s opinion and willingness to put time and effort.