31 yr old unmarried female. Faced with recent breakup due to caste issue. professionally not liking the job & money. How to cope with stress
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Love > Caste, Try to convince at home.
He had to convince.. he couldn’t convince. He was already negative and from last 2 months he was keeping me in dilemma whether this will work out or not. He told that 98% it’s no then I told him ki thik hai its 100% no for me. How long can I wait at this age. He is a boy he will get a girl at 35 also but not me
He used you
I would advise trying marriage portals. Since you’ve been in a serious relationship you must not be the live all alone types. You can still find great respectful guys through these portals. Once your personal life is sorted you can then focus on professional life
Dont get into a relationship where the guy is not sure. Observe how he talks about his family, they ever had a intercaste marriages? If its 0 then high chances it will remain same.
Now what to do after this breakup.
One thing to always keep in mind:
Nothing in this world can make you happy. No person or money can fill the void we all have.
People try to fill the void with external things and even a partner falls in this category.
But life is very hard if anyone wants to manage it alone.
Good thing about us humans is we can think . We can figure out what we like, or what we could like.
Just sit down one day for an hour . Make a list that you like to do alone. Where you are felt happy, good, or even the mental state where you do not think about anything else other than that particular activity. It could be a thing from your 2nd grade or college life. Eg: drawing , music, working out, long walk, it could be anything that gets you in the "Zone".
Pick up any old activity or try new things.
You might end up finding something that you would like to do without the pressure of getting the output from it.
But the most important thing is we all gotta earn money to survive. A comfortable life where all the needs are met is the most important thing. A life partner might come late. But there is no point of sitting hopeless and messing up financially .
Not all job needs be done out of passion. Some things needs to be done just to survive in this world.
Chill out @TwinMystery . Shit happen. And it could be worst next time.
Take it slowly.
If you think you can manage to prepare and switch now then do it.
If you think you would need some time to cope up with the situation then take that time and then try to switch.
Next time remember to focus and prioritize yourself first.
And get clarity about the caste situation in the first meeting or date itself to not go through such trauma again.
Wishing you the best.
Same situation happened with me as well, stay strong and move on, connect with friends and family who can help you out a little.
There would be a lot to do right now, like marriage, changing job etc, but dnt stress about it. Take one thing at a time, first change your job, make new connections there , may be you will found one there and rest all will follow up automatically.
You will get a good partner. You should prioritize yourself and be happy. Travel and get soo busy with life that you don't have time to think. See if you can volunteer somewhere and please please do everything to keep your financial independence. Money cushions the blow.