Field Sales Executive

One sided friendships doesn’t last..

Feeling puzzled about lasting friendships lately. I'm usually the one initiating conversations, and it seems like people go silent for days on WhatsApp as if they don’t use it. Is this a common experience ?🤔 How do people manage to last their school or college friendships?

One question to Men

If you call a lady younger than you as 'Madam' /'Ma'am' What does that mean?

Hyderabadis or Angerabadies

People say Hyderabadis are some of the nicest people. I've been here in Hyderabad for 1.5 years and I can tell you, They're not nice. They're one of the angriest people I've met in my life and I've been around. I've lived in Mumbai, Kerala, Bangalore and now at Hyderabad post marriage. It feels like I'm in this wierd place where if people approach you, it's to complaint or fight. I've had 1 guy complaint to me saying my windchime is disgusting and that he and his daughter are not able to meditate because of it. I live in 5th flr & he's at ground. When we check with the home owners, they told me to keep it and give the complaint no mind. Then guess what happened. The guy started harassing my owners. He somehow got hold of both the couple's numbers and started sending messages daily 4–6 times. Then the owners told us that he was torturing them and shared screenshots, after which we removed the windchime from inside our balcony. The roads are shit. I've seen some bad roads and these are officially the worst. There was literally a portion of the road that was missing near my place. During the rains, the whole area would get flooded and we wouldn't be able to see where the hole starts. During this time, people just use the one way as a two way to avoid accidents. And guess what happened. When I did this, 1 tempo guy comes and hits my car. There was light and he didn't even bother slowing down and hit the right side of the car. I was driving. I remember thinking for a short moment before the impact, is this my end. We argued but I was on the wrong side so there was nothing I could say. We then left for the car service centre. When we came back, people were gathered in that area. Turns out, 1 guy went on the right side of the road in his bike and fell in the hole. A water tanker came from behind and hit him and went on. The guy died on the spot. When the people tracked the tanker and questioned him, he said he had no idea he had hit someone. This was just moments after my accident. Next came diwali. Me and my husband were going to buy the diwali lights. The road was supposedly fixed by now. Or so I thought. The road was wet. Either it rained or the water fell off the water tankers that frequent this road. I was in the backseat of our Activa. We were going, happily thinking about how we'll decorate our house. It was our first diwali after marriage. Next thing I know, I was lying flat on the road. My husband forgot the hole and we fell in it. My hand was bleeding nonstop and my husband had scratches all over his hands and legs. It's the first time I was in an accident. We went to the nearest hospital where the nurse tried to pull the skin out that was cut in my hand with his bare hand. It's a pretty deep cut, not something you can just pull off. Then he takes a scissor that was lying there, unsanitised and tried to cut my skin. I screamed in pain. This was brutal. It would get infected. So I left. We bought our own dressing and dressed ourselves. The next day we got tetanus shot. My husband was fine, but me - I got high fever. The whole diwali, I struggled to decorate and do puja and all the required things. We managed 1 photo where we looked .. well.. not sick and in pain. And now yesterday I was taking my dog out for his walk. He's a pug. The area has lots of strays. Everytime I go, they try to attack me and my dog. The whole place is like a dumpster with trash everywhere. There are water filled potholes too. It's disgusting. But there are no other places to go for his walks. I don't take him to any of the nice places. The main road is also not safe. It was night, around 9:30pm. There was no light in the area. We were on our way back, when 1 guy who was on the phone approached me. He said you can't walk your dog here. This is a private land. It actually wasn't. It was the road. I asked, This road is a private land? He said yes. I told him, it's not. He said, even if it's not, you can't walk your dog here. He'll pee everywhere. I was standing next to a huge pothole and I've seen people pee in the bush next to that multiple times. There were even stray dogs lying about. I pointed to them and said first you get rid of these strays. They're the ones staying here. Also, this isn't a private land. He said, let me take your photo and tried to take mine and my dogs photo. He came too close to me and I got scared. I told him How dare he take my photo and I took a few steps back. My pug who can easily win the laziest dog in the world award, who sleeps 21–22 hours a day and lives only to eat and sleep, he barked at the guy and showed aggression. He probably felt my fear and tried to protect me I guess. This made the guy take a few steps back. But I think he took a photo or video. Im not sure what I should do. I, ofcourse will change my dog walking route, coz I don't want to be cornered at night in a street with no light, I feel scared just thinking about it.