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Men raised by sisters- A story of Elder sister duties 👫

I have a younger brother, pretty much GenZ (both by age and actions). My brother and I share a very close bond. Given that our parents have been pretty strict about being desciplined, well mannered and humble and following traditions (selective), I made sure since he was born that I'll be his best friend, a safe place where he can share all his secrets and emotions, where he'll feel accepted, comfortable and appreciated. But time and again, I've also ensured that I raise his to be a well spoken, well mannered and a humble gentleman. Recently, he went to college, he has made many female friends. While scrolling through his Instagram handle, I came across a picture which was posted by a female friend of his, reposted in my brother's stories, where the girl and he were standing a meter apart from each other, and were showing "the finger". The girl went on to write "me and my homie". This triggered me. I immediately called him up and asked him to take the picture down to which he didn't agree and proceeded to cut my call as well. I stayed patient. And I texted him. And asked how would you feel if some random friend of mine came over and abused me and called it as a friendly way of acknowledging my presence in his life? He called me after sometime, and I explained to him that I understand that college is new, there's excitement and zeal and enthusiasm, but what's more important is that you stay respectful towards everyone, but ESPECIALLY women. This is not old-fashioned, this is a character trait. And I asked him to apologise to his lady friend. We both are GenZs, but me being older to him, I'm going to ensure that I raise my brother with standards and dignity, mannerisms of all sorts. I want his future gf/wife to say that the women in his life (myself and mom) have raised a gentleman. And I don't know how much of a great job I'm doing, but I do know that I'm going to raise a man who knows how to seek and give respect. ❤️

Switch to PM?

Indian. I am a SDE (backend) currently. ~2 yrs exp. 16 LPA and I work 40-50 hrs a week. I like where I am, but I am not feeling the zeal for tech anymore. Probably will do a MBA down the line (thinking abroad, not sure) Looking for equal or greater pay, similar WLB, new domain. Should I switch to PM and try a hand at it? Am I aware of the reality or living in my own isolated reality?

Thorfinn made me to move on.!🙇🏻‍♂️

It’s been a while since I felt great, but it was not how it used to be now. 3 years back I had a breakup with my ex, and it deeply saddened me at the fact that I turned bitter. The reason is simple, the effort was wasted. For 4 years, the relationship broke in front of my eyes and I couldn’t do a thing about it. This made me question the efforts that were poured into the relationship. Her reaction at the end made me even more furious and made me feel like she was the one who ruined my life. To make things even worse, she moved on quickly and started seeing guys, and I was still mentally stuck on our breakup. After knowing this, I literally considered her as my ENEMY, who didn’t care about me, my feelings and my efforts. Days passed and things started getting worse, and I was feeling more painful and angry about my situation and also, day by day, she started enjoying her life. I blamed her for everything and wished that she would never come into my life until I saw the Vinland Saga series (especially season 2). Vinland saga thought me something that I was looking for unintentionally. Maybe a relationship, maybe I might get hurt. Maybe she didn’t fix or care about it. But in the end, I was the one who only suffered and suffered because I didn’t accept the fact that this relationship had been over and things had changed. Instead, I made her a villain, which is something the same as my boy, Thorfinn, experienced too. Filled with vengeance to kill and lost zeal for living when he didn’t get what he wanted. Life long he considered someone as his enemy, where the enemy himself didn’t seem to care and had his own purpose. When Thorfinn realized that he had life to live, and he didn’t have to hurt anyone since HE had NO ENEMY, it literally echoed in my ears. Even after that episode ended, I couldn’t stop thinking that everything about this relationship had been changed, and I am the only person holding on to grudges. After realizing this, I was the happiest person. Yes, it was painful, yes. Yes, it broke my heart. Yes, she moved on quicker than me. Yes, my efforts were wasted, but the thing is that I was never obligated to suffer, and she is not my enemy at all. This one dialogue from Thorfinn made me a better person and, in fact, a healthier mental man. Thank you, THORFINN!!♥️