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Folks who are 30 y/o and above, do you still have dreams or are following your dreams while responsibilities pile up in life?

I have always dreamt of playing an electric guitar on stage. I started to learn guitar in late 2020 and it's been 1.5 years since I stopped playing it do to multiple reasons like bad time management, upskilling for switching, work etc. I always wanted to work in companies not directed towards IT such as Mercedes Benz, Philips, Samsung, Siemens, Ather etc and work in areas where UI/UX design overlaps with physical product design. Physical product design is my first love and will continue to be so as that field still fascinates me. Not everyone is privileged enough to pursue their passions and might have to work in certain areas where they are partially interested and pay is good coz, hey! We gotta pay bills. I wanted to learn multiple languages and was learning German a couple of years ago. Again, due to the reasons listed above, I had to drop out. I want to travel abroad for work, work in multi cultural teams etc. I always wanted to run marathons and reach the top of Nandi Hills (a hill on the outskirts of Bangalore) by cycling because I was once a obese kid and wanted to prove myself wrong. Now, I have to loose 13 kilos and I'm on working on it. But I sometimes wonder if I can do these things as I had so much to work on. I was pretty good in sketching. In fact, I was pretty good once upon a time in my design school. Now, I barely sketch. I don't want to loose that part of me who use to sketch day and night. I want to have an Instagram page with all the digital illustrations I wanted to make. We live in times where one has to consistently switch jobs, upskill everyday, spend time with family and friends (not that I don't want to, but I also love my personal time), take care of aging parents, take care of kids, take care of household, travel to work, get enough sleep for 6-7 hours a day- basically be an adult. I sometimes wonder if life is nothing but a graveyard of dreams. I understand that one can't do everything in life and sacrifice is inevitable in life.

Living a "good" life in Bangalore (or any metro for that matter) - not sure where this ends

Let me start by saying this - I live a good life, a really good one (touchwood). I’ve worked hard to get here, and I’m fortunate to be in a career where I earn well with plenty of room to grow. My expenses aren’t something I lose sleep over. I’m not writing this to talk about cutting costs or living frugally – I’m not about that. But lately, I’ve been wondering if the way we structure our lives, especially in cities like Bangalore, comes with a cost we aren’t really acknowledging. Here’s a snapshot of my lifestyle: - Rent: 25k (my share of a 65k flat in a premium society with every amenity imaginable). - Maintenance: 10k, split three ways. - Cook: 8k, again split three ways – none of us can be bothered to cook after work. - Maid: 4k, also split three ways, for the same reason. - Tennis coach: 3k a month because I finally decided to add structure to my fitness routine. - Groceries: We spend a handsome amount here every month because we’re lazy and order online for convenience. Add to this all the small indulgences – eating out at least twice a week, subscriptions (Netflix, Spotify, etc.), and other discretionary spending – and the numbers really start to pile up. On paper, it all sounds like “good to have” expenses. And honestly, they are. None of this is essential. I’ve worked hard to create this life, and I’m proud of it. I don’t want to cut corners or scale back – I’ll only earn more as my career grows. But what I keep coming back to is this: at what point do we stop to question if this lifestyle is driving us, rather than the other way around? Here’s what’s been nagging me: - Are we losing our ability to do hard things? Cooking, cleaning, and managing our homes used to be part of life, not something to outsource. Convenience is great, but at what point does it disconnect us from the rhythm of living? - Are we just chasing the next upgrade? The nicer flat, the better meal, the fancier experience – it feels endless. Does living in tier 1 cities like BLR inherently push us into a lifestyle treadmill? - What happens to our perception of value? When paying ₹100 for delivery or ₹500 for a tennis lesson feels like a drop in the ocean, do we lose sight of what’s truly worth spending our time and money on? I’m not suggesting there’s anything wrong with enjoying what you’ve earned. I love my lifestyle, and I don’t plan to change it. But I also feel this strange undercurrent – like we’re inflating what it means to live “well,” and it’s becoming harder to know where the line is. It also makes me think about privilege & luck in life. This lifestyle isn’t accessible to everyone, and when the baseline for living a “good” life in cities like Bangalore becomes 1 lakh a month, who gets left out? Are we creating a society where “good living” is only for the few, while others struggle to keep up? And beyond money, what does this mean for us as a generation? Are we trading resilience and resourcefulness for convenience? Are we losing sight of what truly matters in the pursuit of a curated, aspirational lifestyle? I don’t have answers, just A LOT of thoughts swirling around - this has just been on my mind lately, wanted to put this out somewhere so here we go 😬

20M Studying in DU clg messed up the life bcz of my father(he wants to control each and every moment of "MY"life)I want freedom joy happines

1-I am a very ordinary common guy from Delhi who has created a lot of insecurity and fears from society fearful of Short height(4,2inc) due to this not at all ready to get married in future at all even if I will get a lot of pressure from the parents no I will not do How to handle that situation bcz my papa is sensitive to his pride ego respect in society and I am fearful that he may get a heart attack because my elder sister's marriage has recently broken and he was so depressed. 2- I wanna be a stock trader but my father is totally against this he perceives as gambling and ready to INVEST a single penny so finding a part time WFH job which is like finding a nail from heap of pile literally 3- he is not ready to send me to another country because I have -9 dioptre + Neigh kindness since birth having Very weak immunity as doctors have advised during Diwali strictly weak a mask as i always get infected by pneumonia My elder sister and mother's mental health is not well and very fearful how to handle this in near future as it grows May someone advice guide Suggest me how to spend next 10-12 yrs of my life from handling the peer pressure society pressure family(especially and only pressure from my father my father )pressure. What to do