Why is death and old age so scary??
Currently I am not in the state of writing much but right now I am in the phase where I don't have any clues about life.
It's just a week my mom passed away without any reason or serious health condition. It was just because of a heart attack. 2 days before her death she complained about uneasiness and some chest pain suddenly..we took her to the hospital. The hospital got All the tests done and found sugar level, cholesterol and triglycerides on the higher levels. Dr. Did the ECG and referred to a bit hospital and suggested for ASAP Angiography and treatment. She went to a big hospital and got the angio done and found a blockage. Immediately the hospital did the stent treatment within 30 mins and shifted her to another bed. Suddenly she started suffocating and screaming with a pain in her thigh where they did the surgery and asking for water as her throat was drying, but the doctor said not to give water because she just got operated. She was in full pain, but nobody could help her....they just put her in a ventilator for a while but, she could not survive...finally she left for a heavenly body with lots of pain...I am in big loss and pain for my mom...how to come out with this pain?
A few years back I experienced the similar situation 😔..... having flashbacks now, all the pain, all those experimental medical procedures my mother was gone through, still gives me trauma....
Bro this pain will never leave you....but with time will make you stronger....for the time being please don't be harsh on yourself stay strong and take care of yourself and your family, these tough times will pass soon. Stay strong wishing you best.
Very sorry to hear this. Wish you and your family the strength to bear this loss. 🙏🏼
Very sorry for your loss. I lost my dad six months back due to sudden issues as well. It's not easy but you will get stronger, be there for your family. Try to talk to your friends or close ones for change of mind.
I'm sorry for your loss. May god give you all the strength you require.
Very sorry for your loss. You’re stronger than you think - take care of yourself !
I’m very sorry for your loss. Stay strong @Ladybug.
Hey, I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing your mom suddenly like that - especially when she went through so much pain - that’s traumatic on so many levels.
Press Pause on trying to “come out” of this pain right now. You just lost the most important person in your life a week ago. Your grief is raw and valid.
That fear of death and aging hitting you now makes complete sense. Watching someone you love suffer and die suddenly makes mortality feel very real and terrifying. Your brain is trying to process “if this happened to her, it could happen to me.”
The pain you’re feeling isn’t something to fix or get over quickly. It’s love with nowhere to go. Let yourself feel it without rushing to heal.
Small things that help our clients dealing with sudden loss:
- Breathe when the panic about death hits
- Talk to your mom out loud when you miss her
- Don’t make big life decisions while grieving
Grief changes you, but it doesn’t have to break you. Take it one day at a time.
We have people supporting each other through similar losses: https://link.elfinahealth.com/presspause
Your mom wouldn’t want you to suffer. Be gentle with yourself 💙
A few years back I was in similar situation. Few days back we checked my moms blood sugars and everything was in place. She just suddenly fall off and we thought It was something related to giddiness she was suffering inside but can't express what it feels like. We took her to a hospital she was conscious but as we entered inyo hospital and giving details to doc she was unconcious. Later they said heart is completely blocked they will try to do angio if BP and sugar levels support(both were high at that time). After sometime intermal bleeding started they tried to take control of the situation. Doc said she is responding BP and sugar levels are in balance tried blood infusion. As we was getting hope in few minutes she was no more. That shock is indescribable. I happened to experience the same with my dad too which happened just like that in a span of 20mins(pain, taking to hospital, doc treatment, we lost him).
Dont hold your sadness inside speak it out or express it to someone you are comfortablr with. I know this loss will always stay with you, but remember your mom would never want you to carry sadness or trauma in your heart. Try to see it this way her absence is something that can never be replaced but what you can do is focus on how to live and make your life better, carrying her love with you. With time, you’ll learn and grow through this it’s all part of the universe’s plan.
Prayers with you. Be strong!
Bhai, I’m really sorry for your loss. I know nothing can fill this gap right now. Best thing you can do is take care of yourself eat properly, sleep on time and stay around family or close friends so you don’t feel alone. Talk about her, share memories, it actually helps instead of keeping everything inside. ....Try not to overthink why it happened... sometimes life is just unfair. Slowly get back to your daily routine, work/study, keep yourself busy. Time doesn’t erase pain, but it makes it bearable......If you feel it’s too heavy, talk to a counsellor .... no shame in that. Your mom would want to see you strong and taking care of yourself
