Why I am always unlucky in Love?
I'm 29 years old girl. It's peak marriage age. But till now I have never been in any relationship. It's not that I don't want to but I'm picky and I believe in real love, to be there in thick and thin, in all situations. And when I feel love for someone base on how the person is with me and other.. the moment I start feeling deeply, slowly they disappear. Till now I have loved 2 person. One was during my graduation day and after, but ended up with a statement 'we are just friends'. After a long gap of years, I finally met the other one, this is the recent one, he is elder to me, and very mature and caring and kind to me. But when he knew I have started feeling for him, he said, I don't want to hurt you but I have lost trust and believes on marriages, and don't want anything serious.
Why is it always me? Why always I have to understand? Why not to the person I love don't love me back? I sometimes feel so lonely and unlucky..
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You are not alone, lakhs of people have never been in relationships. đ You are making it look as if you lost a kidney𤣠On a side note, little amusing to see that even girls get friend-zoned!
Its not just you.. Social media has given so many options to people..so people are confused which one to choose... Breakups are normal in society.
My friend got dumped by a girl just because he didn't call her first on her birthday.. Wtf?.. Are we becoming too fragile that a phone call decides the relationship?
Just give yourself some time, don't land in a toxic relationship just because you are 29..
Unrealistic expectations due to social media, keep comparing life with others and feeling envious/jealous.
People used to be normal, but nowadays fake positivity and fake negativity of social media lead to doomscrolling, lacks critical thinking and positive approach.
I can really relate to what youâve shared.itâs honest and deep. Iâve been through something similar too. I have crossed 30, and like you, I believe in true love and a meaningful connection that lasts through thick and thin. Iâve been in a relationship before, and letâs just say, Iâve been a bit unlucky in love too. But even after everything, I still believe in the kind of bond where both people choose each other every day. I just want to sayâyouâre incredibly strong for sharing this. It takes real courage to love deeply in a world thatâs often superficial. it just means you know your worth and value real connection over temporary company. The right person will never walk away when you show your heartâtheyâll stay, and theyâll protect it. Youâre not late, youâre just taking the road thatâs meant for real love, and trust me, thatâs always worth the wait.Sometimes wait can be little longer also but all we have to wait.
Sister you are definitely not alone.. it is difficult to get guys even for the basic asks like sticking through thick and thin... đ forget princess treatment n all
I am 27 F, i also never had any relationships. I met a person who shows interest in beginning, this is the first time i developed feelings for someone but after one year he start searching other girls for marriage. He knows i have feelings for him but still he is looking for other options. He is neither leaving me nor accepting me.
Unfortunately, love as an emotion is like that. Itâs worth and only meaningful if it is mutual otherwise itâs not leading anywhere.
Donât loose hope, keep being the person you are. You anyway donât want a person who doesnât see or understand the real you, so anyone who rejected you..:itâs actually good. If they did not see the good in you today, probably they will never on their own.
Rather just focus on you and explore options, arranged marriages are not arranged these days, there are a lot of dating apps (not something I would recommend but can try). Be the authentic you, if they like youâŚwell and goodâŚif they do notâŚitâs only a win for you that you saved yourself from a relationship where you would have to put efforts only in being seen by themâŚwhich would be painful for sure than this.
Itâs life, take it the way it comes. Once you are over this guyâŚ.all the very best with âmission loveâ