Why does caste become so relevant all sudden, when it comes to marriage?
I don't wanna go through this, everyday it is getting more difficult. As if like all boils down to the caste than who I am, how I am as an individual no one even considering that in family, search are limited to caste.
I feel like I should just run away somewhere. I am not ready for this new drama. Am I just overthinking. Any words from your experience will help a lot.
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I've been on a couple dates in my entire life. I have a made it a strict point not to ask 2 things to the guy I'm going out with-
- Salary package.
- Caste.
There shouldn't be these stupid filters when it come to marriage. This is life long commitment we are talking about, not a business deal. And if you are coming across such people, the only thing you can do is, runnnnnnn!!!!
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Have a discussion with your Dad and ask him “Does marrying same caste guarantee 100% good life without downs only ups?”
If he says YES, then what?
Tell him to give an example
In today’s day and age, sure is irrelevant. But if you look at why the older generation(s) usually insist, it was mainly for 2 things.
- People within the same caste would have similar beliefs / practices / habits / the way they live their lives.
- It would be easy to do a background verification (those days) within the same caste. A few phone calls and you get the information you need about the family.
Of course, today, these are more or less irrelevant. But also good to know why they’re usually asked by older generations (of course, not all of them ask for genuine purposes. Sometimes, it is just for the sake of itg )
Most Indians are discriminatory against each other, nothing you can do about it :(
Yeah it does matter to our parents a lot, but it's difficult to change their mindset. Either you become absolutely stubborn about it that you wanna marry out of caste or go as per them. I don't think there's any third way to deal with this.
Buddy, stand for your own ideals. It may hurt your parents but you are an individual with Soul, Flesh and Conscience.
Some uncles and aunties care a lot about being included in the so-called "Community/circle".They don't want to stand out
So yeah,if any parent takes a caste seriously,sorry to say this ,they care a lot about what others think and say ,rather than prioritizing children's happiness.They are insecure to the point where they would rather destroy the children's lives than being an odd one out.
it matters a lot in India. even the shaadi.com and jeevansathis have caste based filters..