Why do partners cheat? Need genuine answers...
One of my friends is recently having feelings for someone else. She thinks of getting along with someone else all the time. She hasn't done anything yet. But thinking about it is also cheating. She is about to get married in 5 days. What do I tell her as a friend? She is a good person but she gets attached to anyone very easily...
Amen 🤲🏻🙇🏻♂️ for the guy.
Genuinely. Imagine there is a guy, out there in this world, unaware. Pity.
Yes that guy is like a brother to me and so good. But she's also my best friend and lately, she has second thoughts about someone else
It's just the fall of human society. I sound like an old guy, the further we stray from religion - the greater our focus on 'me - the individual', the more shit like this is bound to happen
I shared my updated comment. They're still getting married.
I spoke to the guy and the girl both. They anyway decided to get married yet knowing the truth. Can't help!
EXACTLY x 100
When you are committed to someone, you should not allow yourself to see perfection or and anything like that in someone else.
That’s a moral one should hold for self.
Tell your friend that if she even wants to take any interest in someone else, break up with the guy first rather than cheating. At least be true to self.
And whatever it be, the world is going to judge this girl. Ask her to make a conscious choice on whatever she wants to choose.
Nah bro "why world will judge this girl"... given such situation yes they should... I mean if we think of a boy doing this thing with two girls.. then "boy should be judged" definitely...
Yup, I shared my updated comment. They're still getting married.
I spoke to the guy and the girl both. They anyway decided to get married yet knowing the truth. Can't help!
- Fear of commitment
- Lack of connection with their current partner
- Gets bored/disinterested fast. Always looks for the next shiny thing.
- Getting married under pressure/obligation
- Self sabotage behavior. Getting settled sounds too good to be true.
@Cherryblossom your friend could be dealing with one of these concerns
[I didn't write the solution rather just tried to decode things... you may skip reading this comment if looking for a proper soln]
I don't have relationship experience but from a problem perspective that's how I look at it.
- Let she be G, gonna be husband as H, and the new guy as B.
- Now, since it's only 5 days left in wedding, G would have had a conversation with H before saying yes to marriage say some x months ago. And that too deep conversation because G is your friend and energy is contagious and you have a kinda phD in relationships.
- Having said that, the question is when B came into the picture? (that will set a lot context for now and future)
3.1 within x months
3.2 before x months from now
Now, if 3.1 is true... we need to know certain properties about B as it's hard to convince a girl but but but there are certain parameters and word manipulation power which can do so in a few days even. So, here if G gets affectionated by words only then G needs to spend more time with you to understand that given the corporate context, it's not the way forward. Because after marriage as well some B1, B2, B3... may manipulate her easily.
If 3.2 is true ....if G met B before H, and agreed with H for marriage then it's again either family pressure or H ended up convincing G.
Solution: G needs to understand that she has to stay connected but don't get attached. How? show her the case studies because if feelings will change this often then (you are smart enough infer further few words).
PS: Getting attached and feeling sad by their actions is something I have gone through in general life but that attachment is not strong enough to develop a marriage wala liking.
Yeah u might be right. But I can't do anything now.
Tell her finance
Bro, I said her fiance. They're still getting married
Why do I think all friend posts are of the person who posts 😅
That's because bro, I'm married and have kids also... Oh I enjoy my life with my husband. But there are few people who think they're smart and know everything. Hey by the way, you were trying to find a girl in the matrimony portal, what happened? You got any or can I refer one of my friends?
Ask your self why did you cheat on him
Bro, can u check the comments properly or see what I have asked?
I am already married... I am asking for my friend. I have no idea why people come to conclusions so soon.....
Update: I took her to Shift today at HSR and spoke to her, she said she can't control her feelings and either don't want to leave her fiance. What she didn't know was I called her crush and fiance both. I told them to discuss and sort this out right now. Looks like the guy is so blind in love that he anyways trusted her and still wants to go forward with marriage.
Don't just people too early dude. Sometimes they just get their life spoilt by partners.
