Why Can’t Men Be Kind to Each Other?
Why do men criticise each other instead of understanding? Every time a man opens up about his marriage, emotions, or mental health, the first thing other men do is mock him or call him weak. It’s sad to see how easily they turn a cry for help into a joke.
Women talk to each other. We share, we cry, we take suggestions, and we lift one another up. But when a man tries to be vulnerable, he’s told to “man up” or “handle it like a man.”
Why can’t men just listen to each other without ego or judgement? Being strong doesn’t mean being silent. Sometimes all someone needs is another person who simply says, “I understand.”
I really want all the mature guys here to answer this. I want to understand the reason behind this behaviour, why is it so hard for men to support other men emotionally?
First time hearing this. Ngl As per me it's complete opposite I have nice friends. They maybe scolding me inside a room for mistakes. But they will help if I ask. Issue maybe with me asking them for help. It is not like they will not help. And i prefer not to ask for help most of time, I want to learn how to deal myself. If I am asking help they know I am in quite difficult situation
So they will help any how . Aur kaun kehta men , men ko support nhi krta . Pehle Acche dost bano phir dekho (Not saying to you but in general). Jab kisi dost ki shaadi hoti hai sabse jayda naachte hum he hai, naukri lagti hai sabse khush hum he hote hai. Pehle party baad mai referral
Ego and arrogance, trying to live false image of "better than others". Plus social grooming where men's vulnerable state is mocked rather supported.
Ohhhh ...
Because men are taught to NOT be emotionally intelligent. They are trained to be a "provider", earn money, be strong, not feel. It's a well known line that "men are not supposed to cry". I wonder who made this rule.
So out of those, if one of them is emotional, likes to cry out and share, that man does not fit the template. Therefore he's labeled "weak".
Ego is a defense mechanism because those men know they are broken inside or even struggling.
That's a sad reality
There was a time we used to fight and protect. Do you want to be someone who cries or acts weak. In the end nobody cares about and everything eventually goes normal.
The only way to achieve it is by awareness , spiritual education, having sessions conducted in IT companies/offices by spiritual leaders.
It's the society we see and grow up since childhood. It teaches us in every step that men behave in a way tk solve issues not cry on it. It creates a wall between our heart, conscience and the real world and people. This is the reason why it looks like ego, arragance problem from other side of the wall. This is the reason boys can't go and hug their fathers and cry. But deep down if someone opens up his vilnerable emotional side and the person in front really cares for him, they support. They hug each other and cry as well. But the corner is very small, this bond doesn't exist with everyone. Else... men are like that... just ride fast on their bikes and cry out during the rides to feel a little light and start the hustle bustle again.
Ego, and drilled-in phrase: "Be a man".
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