Which side are you on: Freedom or Loneliness
"And when nobody wakes you up in the morning, and when nobody waits for you at night, and when you can do whatever you want — what do you call it, freedom or loneliness?" — Charles Bukowski
Many of us chase independence, a bigger role, a new city, a remote lifestyle, but find it’s a mix of freedom and isolation. Which side feels heavier to you right now?
I had to shift to tier 1 city after 3.5 years doing WFH, its been 6 months, sometimes its freedom, mostly its loneliness.
Currently i have 3 days wfo, but i travel all 5 days to battle loneliness. The feeling of unlocking the door when i reach home gives me some sadness.
Finally I felt like staying with my family is far more better than staying alone, The freedom isn't worth it according to me. Maybe getting married will resolve this problem.
It’s honestly a mixed bag for me
I do enjoy the freedom or the luxury of being alone but on the counterpart when you know a family member is around you feel at ease !
Maybe the working week Is awesome being alone , but the weekends or the nights where you are struggling to keep yourself sane are the ones you need someone close to you
Create your own family and tribe. Have your freedom without the loneliness.
I just feel like I need to sit alone even though in surrounded by my loved one's, it's just too much for me I'm overwhelmed and with me reaching 30 and all of my male and female friends being married the pressure is hidden it's all about me being alone now I don't feel lonely I just am alone.
No interest no nothing I have grinded for 5 years of my career to an extent that although I have reached a respectable career position now everything and everyone feels shallow.
The silence is fun but it's defeaning sometimes when I visit my friends I see them being so easily "adulting" in life and here I'm not able to make such spontaneous decisions in my personal life.
It's weird I feel tired but again it's fun too.
Are you on a career break? I relate with your story a lot
It's loneliness, it doesn't feel like freedom.
When nobody checks on you and you see others on the other side, it creates ocean of emptiness, a void, a big void where you feels nothing, feelings dries, you just live.
You are surrounded by people and still be lonely. When you want someone to share, to talk to. Then you try to understand life. It's called loneliness, not freedom.
When you can't fit in the groups in the office, in the gym, in the society, in the college due to introversion or some other thing. When people pass by you as you are just invisible. When you can't find anyone to share, It's loneliness.
When you find, you just can't change it, there will be no one to wake you up and no one will wait in the future as well. You just surrender to loneliness. You are
"A warrior who conquered kingdoms, yet was conquered by his own soul."
If you have a purpose in life then it's freedom otherwise it's loneliness
Couldn’t have said it better!
I didn't understand it, what does this mean. Suppose if I don't have purpose (may be I'm just doing the work without any passion), does that mean loneliness
