Which events, do you remember hurt your self esteem?

Being praised as a smart kid all my life, flunking in JEE advanced wrecked my self esteem, and it took me a long time to get over it.

In 9th standard, we were a group of four friends who had been together for three years, usually always at the same place. The teacher asked us to write down the names of our closest friends. Everyone wrote each other's names except me. I expected at least one of them to write my name. It hurt.

And another time, we were joking around, and out of nowhere, one of the guys said, "Don't smile, it looks bad." Now, every time I open the camera, I hear his voice.

If you get hurt and sob, nothing good will come out of it. Learn from your shortcomings. Winners are losers that decided to do it one more time. Try to learn why it happened, ask the guys at that party, learn what went wrong, and try to improve. If it's just looks that can be worked upon too. If genuine looks is a problem, work on your personality. Don't resort to hate, you can do better and be better. We've spent out lives being good at x, and some y is always left behind. Don't worry, become aware of the y and start working on it now. I don't know what it this shortcoming was, but I'm sure it can be worked upon.

My heart sank reading this 😰

Bahut sare he yar, agar mei therapists ke paas ja tha hu na toh mera kahaniyo se woh phd kar lega. Tare Zameen par film but us mei amir khan nahi ah tha aur ishant ko drawing ka talent bhi nahi ho tha.

Class 9, new city, new atmosphere, I was awkward and shy. Classmates used to tease and call me Chakka (transgender). I didn't have any good friends. At that age, it used to hurt, it affected my self confidence a lot. But only after coming to college, I realized this was just immature high school mentality. Still, I couldn't mix too freely with others at college due to the fear of being ridiculed. Thankfully, I'm way past that now.

This is copied from Twitter. Just saw a thread on this.

Is it ok if I laugh 🤣