When You Have No Friends, No Partner, and No One to Talk To…
I’ve been through it — the silence, the solitude, the weight of having no close friends or a partner to share life with.
After school, I lost touch with friends. College didn’t bring lasting bonds. I thought I’d find friendships at work, but colleagues aren’t always companions. As for relationships? Never happened. In a city where superficial swag, bikes, and fake charm are worshipped, I didn’t fit in.
To top it off, I’ve lived alone, with my parents far away in a village. It gets lonely — deeply lonely.
But here's what helped me: I threw myself into work, found comfort in music, movies, reading, and hobbies. I reached out to people with shared values — connected with a local Buddhist group, met fellow vegans, and slowly began building meaningful ties.
If you’re in a similar place, I get it. It’s hard. But don’t give up. Follow your interests, try new communities, and stay true to who you are. The right connections take time — but they’re worth the wait.
Talking product sense with Ridhi
9 min AI interview5 questions
People prefer to make friends with those who have similar preferences and perspective about things in general like food, entertainment, beauty, behavior, travel etc. It's innate human need to look for like minded personalities. All you need to do is go over your own likings and explore if you find people around that have similar hobbies and interests on which you can bond? Do not go with a desperate mindset, it will create unnecessary pressure on your friend/partner, just be yourself and give it time. Lastly, unpopular opinion, if you look good (irrespective of the gender) its like a quota/reservation where you will not need to put all these efforts and people will wait in line to approach you. Now choice is yours what your prefer and how you like to perceive others. World is driven by desires and self-interest. Choose wisely.
Agree. I have found people with similar interests but their friendship for me is only on the surface level. I used to wish them on the birthday both in person or over call and post a story on WhatsApp. But I have noticed they avoid posting for me on WhatsApp or social-media. Yes, good looks are important for relationships and even friendships. I know this because I am a below average guy who lacks rizz and swagger. I am married now and I am happy with my wife, son and my parents. I had called my friends when my child was in the hospital. I thought they would come to see him but none of them came. Only 1-2 friends called/texted.
Blaise Pascal once said, “All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” …. Just letting you know.
We hate being alone and bored. Our minds crave stimulation. Love and friendship give us the dose of dopamine and oxytocin.
The same feeling. Got back into music and other long lost hobbies. Experience creative blocks now and then due to the corporate stress but grinding through it
I wish you all the best in your endeavors, bro/sis 💖. Did you leave the corporate world to pursue your passion, which is music, as your livelihood?
If you think hard you're never alone. And if you really are, you are doing bad in life. That's it. Now accept it or blame me but that's the truth.
Not sure about company, but if you can help design some assets for my 2D game, we can talk (and you can maybe get a revenue share once launched)? Please slide into my DMs if interested.
OK I'm dead serious. I actually do need a designer's help.