When Interest meets Uncertainty
There’s this girl I’m genuinely attracted to. I don’t think she’s even interested in having conversations and normally I’d preserve my dignity and walk away. But this time feels different not obsessive, just different . I honestly don’t know what else to do. But before I fully give up, I want to make a few honest tries. Maybe nothing comes of it, maybe something does. Just needed to get this off my chest.
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I confessed to a similar person in work setup 6 weeks back. It was my first ever confession (that too at 29 Yoe). Face a plain No. It has taken a lot of time to recover.
I feel what I could have done better would have been to maybe ask her out for a coffee maybe . Or maybe I would have spent some time on calls trying to understand her before even confessing. It felt more like saying to someone that I have a crush on you without she even knowing much about how I am in personal life after all. Hence the context never matched my confession. This eventually led to a No.
Things could have been different if I would have actually allowed her to be a part of my personal space first before directly jumping on to a meagre confession
A relationship takes two people. You truly might be genuinely attracted to her, and it might be “different” for you this time compared to your other attractions, but that is still just your side of the story.
If she’s not interested back in you then it won’t happen. Move on and spend your time and energy on someone else who reciprocates your feelings.
You might like or want many different people or things in this world, but those people or things are not obligated to like you back.
So you need to learn to accept a no as an adult, and move on.
Your mind is playing tricks on you again
Focus on yourself and build something meaningful in life. When you rise, the right person who truly deserves you will naturally find her way to you.
This is called limerence.
approach her be real and she might just say yes
... Are you fit?
If yes, what's stopping you?
If no, what's stopping you from getting fit first and going to the yes category question?