When Career Took the Front Seat… and Now We’re Waiting
I’ve been working for 13 years now and have always been very focused on my career. When my parents wanted me to get married earlier, I told them I wasn’t ready and would think about it after 30. Then came COVID, and life took a pause. I eventually got married at 32—to my school friend, someone I’ve known for years. We enjoyed those first years of marriage, traveled, laughed, and made memories.
We had planned to start trying for a baby after two years, but I was also up for a big promotion at work, so we pushed our plans by another 6 months. And now I find myself at 35, finally ready—and waiting.
In the meantime, I’ve celebrated many baby announcements from friends and colleagues. And while I’m truly happy for them, a small part of me wonders when it will be my turn. Maybe we were too busy building our careers and living in the moment. Maybe we asked the baby to wait—and now it feels like the baby is making us wait.
Even though I’ve achieved so much professionally, this part of my life feels incomplete. Lately, I’ve started questioning some of the choices I made… and sometimes I wonder if they’re the reason for the delay. It’s hard not to let those doubts affect you, both physically and emotionally.
Is anyone else going through something similar? Or has anyone been through it and come out stronger? Would love to hear something hopeful right now. 💛
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I have been on an almost similar path so I may be able to answer you . I got married during covid at the age of 32 , waited for my wife who was completing her PhD back then . Then we waited for 3yrs and last year we had our first child . Believe me , in those 3yrs , we together enjoyed the best part or our lives from my wife getting her dream job to me getting promotions to travelling across the world 🌍 and growing our careers . Everyone was questioning then and I am sure a couple of years from now , again the Same people will question about the next child . It’s never late or never early . It’s the right time for the right thing . With a career stability , you can now plan your child’s career much better . Having a partner doesn’t put any pressure on your life choices but after having a kid , you will start questioning yourself at every step . So be kind to yourself and don’t overthink . One more thing , the only way to ensure your partner conceive is both timing and a worry free mind . Do not and do not think an about anything else . In fact , start staying close to your friend’s children . You will have a positive vibe. Secondly , good that you are having friends who have a baby already . They will guide you well while raising . We are now guiding a lot of our friends 😂 on what to give their child to eat , how to put them to sleep etc. so , enjoy the journey . Things eventually falls into place
Any Medical challenges with age factor?
Oh man, I start to worry as a 25 year old when I read such stuff. At the same time, it also makes me think about my future. Right now, my mentality is strictly against marriage. But deep down, I know that’s not possible. But I also don’t want such a huge responsibility, I have so much to build before I could provide.
Damn are all mid 20folks thinking the same way? I'm thinking of being childfree and probably a late marriage once I have finances and assets sorted.
Would love to have a partner but don't have the mental bandwidth to raise kids.
(24m)
Pls maintain Work life balance
Father of two here.
Biology doesn't care about career stability, designation or package.
Risks and complications related to child birth increase with every passing year.
I suggest you seek help from a specialist and move with the baby plan asap.
Good luck.
We chose to prioritize having a baby over our careers, and now we're starting to worry about the career part. 😅 But there will always be something to worry about. Ironically, the couples who stress the most about conceiving often end up finding it the hardest. So stop worrying and start doing it. In the end, things have a way of falling into place.
I got married at 27, had first baby at 32 and second one at 37. Two young wonderful daughters . But I can't give them time because I neither have enough money nor I reached anywhere in career to chill and stay worry free. I feel it is better to not have baby when there is not enough means ( time and money) to give . I think everyone should be running at their own pace in having baby and no point in comparison
To all people who giving Sarcastic comments . Request you start working on your EQ (Emotional Quotient) A MAN opens up on open forum just for getting help or may be just want to get it out from mind, just to Relax .
Don't worry , everything will be okay. I had both my children after the age of 30, and from my experience, yes, age can play a role, especially for women when it comes to conceiving. Women often face more challenges after 30, but with the right care, things do fall into place.
Both of you , Focus on slow life , staying healthy . Eat well, exercise regularly, limit screen time, and most importantly, try to enjoy the journey. Don’t stress yourself too much. You've got this.
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I got married at 28 and haf my son in 11 months right after my marriage. It is the best decision of my life. I see myself in him. Also 6 yrs later I had a daughter. So in my case I always gave preference to the family. Dont regret it. At the same time I built my career, also travelled around the world. IT WAS ALL POSSIBLE BECAUSE MY WIFE DOESN'T WORK. She takes care of the house and I take care of the finances and all the support needed.
