What's your first reality check after getting married?

Not everything is Hunky Dory. You have to make sacrifices and adjustments to make it work as both individuals come from different backgrounds/culture/way of living. I can probably write a small novel about it🤣

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Still not married to my partner, so not sure if my opinion counts but, here it goes:

1. That the other person is a whole fucking human being and love can't substitute other traits/shortcomings. You both have to compromise and mold based on each others traits. As a consequence you are not the same person you used to be(could be both good or bad).

2.Money becomes way more important. You have to learn budgeting.

3. Your freedom is curtailed, you can't do 💩 without asking your partner.

4. You have to take initiative to keep the relationship blooming and growing. Puppy love won't last forever. Invest time in knowing about your partner fully. Know when they need space, when they need to held tightly, when you should scold them(softly). Become a good friend basically.

Don't try to change each other and give enough respect and that shd reflect in your behaviour as well. Never insult eachother in front of ppl also in front your parents. Take strong stand for eachother. Bedroom talks shd not come outside the bedroom no matter what. Be eachothers strength and support.

We had a love marriage and mostly we were doing fine on day to day stuff. Surprisingly most of our few fights were about our parents. On what they said, did etc. so my advise would be to take it in stride. It'll be natural for you to defend your parents in a fight even if they are wrong. Don't do that, take a step back. Acknowledge that they are adults, you can't control what they do most of the times and talk/fight with your parents if required if what they did hurt your SO. Don't get into a fight with your SO over parents. It will never end well as no one can back down.

@Introvertbeing

Tera username true ho jayega 🤣