What to do as I get left always
Hi One of my close teammates is getting married and didn't invite me. Though has invited everyone else in the team. This is causing me distress and headache from two days also. I was the one who had referred the person and also many times appreciated the work to managers or among peers.
be happy, you just saved some money on the gift.
Hey thanks. That time I was really feeling left out and lonely.
Hi so I will tell what I did. I removed my extra support to that employee and asked the employee to reach out to me via mail or group chat if needed any help. Apart from this there was an old work which we had worked, but it was me who had worked 95% and not that other employee (5% will be an honest opinion). I mean that's ok as that person was new. I had equally shared the credit. I mean I had given a homely feeling to that employee and this is for real.
Now when a new improvement came to that work, my manager assigned it to me but I gave this time half responsibility to be done by that employee.(we are of same experience)
You know what after one hour only that employee came to me and shared the invitation. I am just surprised to be honest. (That employee had shared the invitation to everyone really everyone except me. Me who acted and still try to be like the true friend.)
Though I don't hold anything now but being a human(a social animal), I had felt excluded and that's a feeling I don't want anyone to fall into.
Yeah I can understand, but there is nothing you can do just move on. Just remember there are no friends or family in office they are just your colleagues nothing more nothing less.
Hi so I will tell what I did. I removed my extra support to that employee and asked the employee to reach out to me via mail or group chat if needed any help. Apart from this there was an old work which we had worked, but it was me who had worked 95% and not that other employee (5% will be an honest opinion). I mean that's ok as that person was new. I had equally shared the credit. I mean I had given a homely feeling to that employee and this is for real.
Now when a new improvement came to that work, my manager assigned it to me but I gave this time half responsibility to be done by that employee.(we are of same experience)
You know what after one hour only that employee came to me and shared the invitation. I am just surprised to be honest. (That employee had shared the invitation to everyone really everyone except me. Me who acted and still try to be like the true friend.)
Though I don't hold anything now but being a human(a social animal), I had felt excluded and that's a feeling I don't want anyone to fall into.
Also it might be they only consider someone they could go for help and take inputs . A lot of people are like that , it might be she considered you more of a work friend . Also , if you are outspoken person , might be the person he/ she is marrying has red flags and they don’t want you to know . Wait and watch who the bride groom is . One of our friends in collage told us abt her bf after 2-3 years . But cause he was not commiting to her and she was insecure about telling us .
Actually other teammate are invited. Even those who that person used to complain about.
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Hi so I will tell what I did. I removed my extra support to that employee and asked the employee to reach out to me via mail or group chat if needed any help. Apart from this there was an old work which we had worked, but it was me who had worked 95% and not that other employee (5% will be an honest opinion). I mean that's ok as that person was new. I had equally shared the credit. I mean I had given a homely feeling to that employee and this is for real.
Now when a new improvement came to that work, my manager assigned it to me but I gave this time half responsibility to be done by that employee.(we are of same experience)
You know what after one hour only that employee came to me and shared the invitation. I am just surprised to be honest. (That employee had shared the invitation to everyone really everyone except me. Me who acted and still try to be like the true friend.)
Though I don't hold anything now but being a human(a social animal), I had felt excluded and that's a feeling I don't want anyone to fall into.
Team mate != Friend why'd you wanna go anyways? Do you see them as a friend?
maybe there was a secret competition between you 2 . Where you thought you were friends bht she thought she was competing. Also , in office a lot of people invite out of obligation but not really inviting.if never shared her courtship period with you , they don’t feel obligated too . Looks like she might have had an issue with you for a while and she does not want to share .
