What is the right thing to do? Please add your suggestions.
I am 25F 4 yoe working in a very well known startup in bangalore from 2.5 years now. This april i will be promoted again. I also have a decent package at my current company.
I am in a long distance relationship from 7 years. My boyfriend and i have been planning to move in together from quite a long time. But due to career security and work commitments we always prioritise jobs over us. My boyfriend is a government employee working in Delhi.
I know i just have 4yoe and i shouldn’t jeopardise my career by any rash decision but i am so tired of living in long distance. I just want to be with him. I want to enjoy every little moment with him.
So i started giving interviews specifically for delhi/ncr/remote jobs and after 3 months of grilling I got an offer from a noida based company not very well known and good in comparison to my current company with 10% hike on my current package as obviously in ncr you can’t expect bangalore packages.
I just want to know your POV on this whether this decision of switching at this peak of my career a good decision or a suicide?
My believe is it is high time that i prioritise my personal happiness and pers life over career. I do not want to run behind money anymore. I just want a peaceful life with my life partner.
Choosing the right partner is the most important decision of life.
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Think for long term , ( what can happen in next 5 years if you switch to NCR , also what if you don’t switch to NCR)
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If you are having doubts ( after so much of the sacrifice what if he doesn’t behave the way I expect)- Try to find answers- why is the doubt - are you not sure - what is the reason
You need to find it
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See sometimes we do sacrifice for loved ones but then they can take it for granted also
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Think about you- If you stay in Bangalore- will you be alright
( if you are not alright - your partner/ relationship will also suffer)
Above are some pointers
Decision is yours…
We are planning to get married next year. If i switch to ncr i will obviously have the luxury of living with him as that is something we have always dreamt of, however my career can go downside, i am also very comfortable in my current job so i will loose that. Having said that, i have no friends in blr, i literally stay in my room the entire day and work.
i do not have any doubt related to him, its just that i am too comfortable in my current job, it is paying me well, i get appreciated, work is good, company has the brand value, colleagues are good too. Thats why i am so worried.
If you put 50% weights to both of the scenarios how can you choose one..
Let me try -
Pyar k liye to log duniya se jane ko taiyaar hai…
Ek job to bhot chota sacrifice hai..
All the best , decision is yours !!!!
Have been in this position. Here is my advice.
Interview a bit more. Given you are a developer, you will get better brand names(ones that don't feel like a compromise). Post that, shift to NCR.
Brand names are VERY important, and BLR to Noida will be considered a downstep. Additionally there is a chance that your relationship doesn't pan out well(due to multiple reasons, not just something malicious or ill) hence, would suggest you to not compromise on the brand aspect of it.
thankyou for your advice 🙏🏻
If he is worth it, even if this is step down in your career (based on your thoughts on the post) , you will be fine.
But if you are not sure, then you have to figure out what matters more before you make a decision. There is no such thing as right or wrong, just different paths.
He is definitely worth it. We have been with each other in all the highs and lows. We are also planning to get married soon. Thankyou for your input 🙏🏻
Whats your total compensation? Can you take frequent flights from Bangalore to Delhi. Once a month? Maybe let him handle the costs in Delhi. Try this out for now and then decide. You never know a person truly if it’s a 7 year long distance. Since you love him, you should give it a try to meet him for sure. And Love doesn’t have to be about being in each other’s arms constantly. Let there be some space in your togetherness.
What does he think about all this? What does he think about your career? I think that too is important.
Also do you like to live in your current city? If let’s say the bf were to come here (very unlikely) or if you had no bf. Coz Delhi,ncr has its flaws apart from what’s attracting you there
I’m just giving you pointers to think on. It’s a very personal thing you’re asking, your decision.
yes i can afford frequent flights but we are also planning to get married in the coming year so that won’t be feasible. He totally supports whatever i do. Since he is from a different field, he doesn’t give his inputs much. Apart from whether i don’t like much about bangalore. I do not have any friend here since i am too introvert, i always feel lonely.
Will be straightforward here. It's most likely is not a good decision for you to accept this offer. 25 is not the age to stop running behind money/career. And moreover assuming a 7 year relationship is mature enough to understand this. Also it obviosuly dosent mean you have to chose between the two, you can have both.
Have been in exact situation and chose career. The relationship still worked out after a while we got to same location with better jobs. Feel free to dm if you want to talk more on this. All the best
Girl, just move in with your guy. Don't think much. You can get 100s of opportunities in the future but this time won't come back. Money is important but the luxury of starting with loved one's is more. If it makes you happy, do it. You'll get endless opportunities.
