What do girls think of extra fair guys?
Are they not liked, I have seen everywhere girls would look at me but they won't talk and I don't have that confidence to interact with them due to less exposure and not knowing them before hand. What is the meaning do they want me to interact or kinda I have to try, looks wise I'm not that good I would say, maybe I'm or not, I overthink a lot and in general speak very carefully when outside so don't open up easily too. But even in cafeteria I was sitting having coffee facing my head down I mean looking downwards and I see a girl constantly staring at me, why she can't come and say hello, I will not bite lol. Im very shy person nature wise too, one more thing I try to dress best of my knowledge when I go outside, it's just that I like it.
I have heard girls strike convos or approach I mean they only look at me and that happened quite frequently, so what goes in their mind and why no one ever approached me? And my complexion is definitely comparable to irani/kashmiri people mix of red and milky white, have beard too, looks wise I'm not that solid maybe 6. I have social anxiety as well and feel nervous because I get stared even when I walk looking downwards. And surprisingly never been in a relationship till date because of less interaction with women.
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I suggest keep yourself open to anyone's stares. It feels awkward, but smile more when some one stares or don't stare also. When someone is looking for help, such as opening doors, handing over coffee cup from counter, do it open heartedly without hesitation. Basically show that you are friendly. This is for both girls and boys who are around you. That way, they will know you are good person. Once you are comfortable, strike basic conversation in lifts and common spaces to show you are concerned about them. That way it becomes clear that you are approachable. Once you feel confident doing these, people will come by themselves and talk to you.
Please understand girls only approach a man when she feels safe around him. Your body language can show that you can make them safe. Be confident yourself first within yourself.
There is no thing as social anxiety, if you make small efforts and be open hearted, you can become confident naturally and talk to anyone. Please stop negative talk with yourself, you are a very honest and lovable person. Once anyone gets to know you deeper, they will love being with you.
U want a woman's opinion? Then honestly "fairness" is never an attractive factor for me. Facial features matter a lot more. Like if a dusky man has a sharp jawline and face structure, then I would chose him over the just "fair" guy.
So it's nothing about just skin color
Bro, real talk- girls are looking at you, theyâre just not gonna do your job for you. Staring isnât them saying âcome save me,â itâs them saying âif you donât approach, Iâm moving on.â
Youâre not unlucky, youâre hiding. Dressing well and then staring at the floor is like buying a Ferrari and keeping it in parking.
And the âIâm shyâ thing? Thatâs not personality, thatâs fear youâve romanticized. Women donât approach because they donât chase passive energy, they mirror your vibe.
Stand up straight, look up, say hi. Youâre not lacking looks, youâre lacking initiative. One bold move will change more for you than 100 posts on grapevine.
Because may beyou approach a female to make her gf. But girls prefer to become friend first if some common habits aligned
Hmm that's true, maybe I'm the issue here. My skills of talking to girls never got developed too like just random hi hello I could do but not more than that because of overthinking and being skeptical of what I'm saying
That's what I can understand if someone does not have friends in girls. So makes friends
I donât prefer extra fair because myself not extra fair , so Iâll think that guy is out of my league
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Youâre not getting approached cos you donât sound approachable :)) If youâre thinking about social anxiety or constantly keeping your head down in a cafeteria or coffee shop, then I donât see how anyone can come up to you and strike a conversation
It was office cafeteria I was talking about, I hardly go to social places because of social anxiety. Yes that can be a reason, how can I be approachable as till date I never thought of dating but now it feels lonely and I'm shy at the same time, plus don't have much friends also
Iâd suggest donât put the pressure of being in a relationship randomly - just try to make friends first, strike a convo with familiar faces (it can be about common things / projects / work / advise) and just take it from there
Just like man also think so
Sorry didn't get it
Man also look for fair girls
As a woman I can say all women have different reasons to stare đ maybe some think you look good, some may be lost in thought and focused on you.
Yes in our society fair skin is mostly seen As attractive, but personally I find guys of various skintones handsome. Looks are important but more than that it's about them wanting to respect your space/perception of how it might appear if she approaches a guy, and not wanting to pressure you. Honestly differs for each woman.
You have to consider the fact that women are afraid of consequences of dealing with unknown men, however their appearance may be.
Some might also be looking at you because you might look like someone they know but they aren't sure xD
I've found that making friends with men helped me understand men better. Maybe the same will help you out, platonic friends who are women can help you understand and better approach them if dating is something you want. With practice, anxiety reduces
