WFO vs Mental Health vs Layoff
I feel really stuck because I'm being laid off on 9th and I've mental health issues already. I don't socialize much and now I've a potential offer but they want 5 days wfo. I feel exhausted and overwhelmed. Is taking a break considered bad? Will it be easy to join back being a male? If I clear the last round should I join that firm? Please help
You can't fix your mental health in isolation. Take WFO. Go and meet new people.
And eat properly. Get VitB12 and VitD checked. You'll see improvements in your mental health.
I'm not saying that I'm right and everyone else is wrong, but I find myself wondering why so many people are drawn to working from the office. To be honest, I have a bit of a dislike for corporate culture—it feels so artificial to me. That lifestyle, with its barbecues and ballgames, and those Instagram-friendly weekend getaways, just doesn't resonate with me. It seems like everything relies on online services, whether it's food delivery, cleaning, or laundry.
Sometimes, conversations feel like a performance, as if people are trying to portray themselves as the wealthiest and most knowledgeable, even after being reprimanded by a manager or client just moments before, or while facing a notice. I can’t help but feel that I might have chosen the wrong path; I’ve always thought I would be more suited for a government job. I’m not sure how newcomers there sre, but I often think about my dad and his simple life—just enough funds for food and clothes.
I don't have any desire for trading; a small fixed deposit would be more than sufficient for me. I apologize if I'm coming across as overwhelmed and perhaps sharing unnecessary thoughts, but I just can't shake the feeling that my mind is saying no to working from the office.
Go and meet a therapist first . Fix your mental health. Go to gym workouts diet do a whole body check and see if you have vitamin deficiency or sleep apnea . Go and mingle with people . Go and find a hobby . World before 6 years revolved arund min 4 days work from office and in the last 6 years wfh has caused more damage cos there’s no distinction between work and home . One starts to work in their pyjama no self care . When you go to office you start dressing well and it reflects on you . Start 5 day WFO and it will change you. It’s better to do 5 day WFO rather than having no job
In laid off era getting shortlisted for interview and getting selected is tough as many ppl are waiting for chance. As u said u r not social try to be social. WFO may help u to socialise comparatively easy and can help for mental health in way.. i am considering here to be optimistic. So think thoroughly before denying jobs as in market ppl r looking for just a one chance to survive in jobs
It doesn't work like that, sir. I've been doing WFO for only a year and managed to socialize despite complaints that I don't talk much. I don't understand why I need to keep talking. Looking at the markets scares me, and that's what most people who don't know me advise. I don't know where things are headed or why no one questions layoffs. It feels like I'm losing control, living a life dictated by society rather than myself.
If you are like me then , I would suggest look for a job which will give you wfh as I find the love in home cooked food, spending time with my Maa, and doing masti at home 🏡, nothing beats that no 5 star hotel food or no fancy outings
So if you have solid support system there is nothing wrong in settling down and getting back on track mentally, you have to understand this is a rat race 🏁, it's not meant for everyone but people don't get it unfortunately
My brother had a job of 1.2 cr in USA but he didn't found it fun and interesting staying away from us he did that for 5 years max and then came back now he is way more happier, compared to how isolated he was there
Idk if many people understand this in company or malls there will be many people but do you feel good there just coz random persons are there ? No because you need someone that love you trusts you and knows you more than you and that's family, hope this helps 🙏
Well said!
What is it that you would like to do? Would you want remote job to do wfh? Will that make you happy? If so, really the answer is straightforward
Join the company and work until you get a decent remote job. Or take some time off, go have a drink or something with your friends and take it easy if you have some savings.
Do bare minimum in this job. See the idea is to earn enough in short amount of time so you can buy your freedom as fast as possible.
I haven't noticed any free birds around. Even at 50 and beyond, it seems like many are still striving to achieve more. Perhaps the notion that one can earn enough in a short period is a bit unrealistic. It feels like there’s never truly an "enough" or a sense of satisfaction. Money, after all, is just paper that can often lead to a sense of avarice.
Really depends. You can come to a number easily and stop when you get it. No one is saying you should not enjoy life while you are chasing that number.
But in my opinion, this number would give you freedom to do whatever your heart desires eventually. If you are a married man, that number and time shifts tremendously.
WFO will be good for your mental health if the office environment is good and friendly.
You can try finding atleast 2 people in the office with whom conversations feel less of a performance and try spending time with them during breaks
The first thing I learned during my training at Accenture was that, in the office, colleagues may not always be friends or family, and that can often be the case. I've witnessed situations where "friends" have submitted their resignations without even informing their close colleagues, leaving them in the dark about job searches. It can be quite surprising for someone to find out just days before a departure that their friend is leaving the company and that they will be stepping into their role. So, it makes me wonder, what kind of friendship is that? I believe it's important to either maintain a professional relationship or to be genuine friends without any barriers; there really isn't a middle ground.
I'll give my 2 cents here,
It seems from your comments on this thread that you've been feeling de-motivated and not in touch with what you're doing, and as one of the person suggested you should get blood work done to make sure all is good in your body.
But I do feel you need to talk to someone about how you've been feeling and what you want, if WFO office dreads you just because of the social interactions, then it's something more than just "feeling off", best is to talk to a therapist for a while.
And look at it this way, while you are figuring out with your therapist, that why does being social has been draining to a point where it's getting between your work and daily life, you'll still have a job, to pay for the professional (cause who are we kidding, therapy is expensive business).
And on top of that, he/she will be able to help you with how to rediscover your purpose,
and after working on all this you realize you want to change fields, do something else, you'd still have a safety net and then you can 0lan your next steps, establish what you want to do and then leave the tech job.
It's hard and tricky, I know cause I've been there, but having a financial safety net always helps.
I truly appreciate your effort in going through the comments and trying to understand my perspective. It can be quite challenging to convey everything on this platform, which isn't really designed for discussing personal life matters. In short, I have genuinely sought therapy from some of the highest-rated professionals in my area, only to realize that they often seem to charge me just to listen to my concerns. It feels like it's more of a job for them, much like any other profession. Perhaps I was simply unlucky in finding a good therapist, especially in a vast country like India.
I even attempted to enroll in a psychology program through IGNOU, hoping to gain a better understanding myself rather than relying solely on a therapist. Unfortunately, I discovered that the program has been discontinued, as the government no longer permits psychology to be offered as a distance education option from the semester I was about to enroll in. Nonetheless, that hasn’t deterred me from exploring YouTube lectures and reading books on the subject.
As you mentioned, it is indeed a difficult and complex journey. Many people here cant relate to the experience of working while on antidepressants, and I sincerely hope they don’t have to go through that. Thank you once again for your support; I haven’t lost hope, I'm not my job.
How going office is exhausted....are office jaana is BAU ...office jao dost banao and kaam karo ...socialise ho ...
I find the hours of commute n chatter tax on my mental energy a bit too high for the ROI. On top of that, "Socialise ho" is where the exhaustion begins for me.
