Want to get married but don't want to buy a house
I'm 25M and I do want to get married within the next 2 years. Unfortunately love didn't work out so I have to go for the AM scene, which I'm okay with.
But the expectations have been so ridiculous these days, everyone's asking my parents if I have a house of my own, due to which even my parents are now forcing me to buy a home or land. I have a good corpus saved up and invested and have a good salary too, so I can definitely afford a home, but I don't have a lot of knowledge in the real estate space, hence I stay away from it and prefer to have all my investments in assets I do understand, mutual funds, stocks and crypto. I prefer renting since the software profession is pretty unstable and one might have to shift according to job demands. But this logic is something the elders fail to understand.
So on one hand I do want to get married but I don't really want to buy a house right now. Do you guys think a house is a good way to spend money and lock your spending for the next 20 years? Is it worth it? Else, how do you convince the elders?
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Are you looking for a partner on matrimonials or are your parents driving it completely. If via matrimonial, try connecting with people, I am sure some good hearted and smart souls will understand it definitely.
It’s stupid to expect you to have a home in these expensive places on your own at this age. I wonder how many self made men owned house at 25! Make it a joint venture with your to be partner rather.!
Since you have a good corpus, got for the house or land.eightbage to get married, so think of it like an investment. Buy a house /land and upgrade your marriage requirements.
If a bride's family asks about your house ownership? Ask them back how much they will give for the girl? Ask them about their networth, see how much the girl is earning.
Who knows maybe you can land a rich inlaw.
If you don't buy one now, rich/well settled bride's won't even consider you. After few years, you will consider buying one but by that point all you will have is left over stock that nobody wanted.
Man this makes so much sense but also feels so shallow at the same time 😭
You are doing right, don’t become stupid to buy a house/land/apartment at 20 yrs EMI. That is the most stupidest thing people do. And many people get married without flats too, no big deal.
Your thinking is absolutely right. It's a bad idea to buy a house if you feel that it will be a burden. It's going to be difficult to convince the elders as they are also rigid. I would say, stick to ur inner thought and stay strong with it. Your parents may feel bad now but later will realize the truth. Also, please show them examples of people who are struggling to due to EMIs and other burdens.
I am also in the exact situation since last 1.5 years
Same situation here bro🥲