Virginity issues
It feels sad being a virgin guy that even virgin girls prefer non virgin guys. And non virgin girls prefer non virgin guys too. So what’s the point of saving myself for marriage? I am a decent looking guy and decent salary and I get girls but after hearing I am a virgin they push back. People can call me stereotype but I don’t care. I can’t accept someone who had a high body count. I wont match their expectations but why would a virgin girl want experienced guys. Even non virgin guys will accept a virgin girl for marriage. Please share your views on this both guys and girls.
Talking product sense with Ridhi
9 min AI interview5 questions
You didn’t stay a virgin for values — you stayed one hoping it would make you feel chosen. Let that sink in. Deep down, you believed restraint would reward you with admiration. But when the world didn’t applaud, you got bitter. That’s not virtue — that’s expectation disguised as morality. And expectations unfulfilled turn men into victims of their own ideals.
Here’s the truth no one tells you: the world doesn’t care about your purity. It never did. Not hers. Not yours. It cares about power — emotional, physical, intellectual. You tried to trade abstinence for affection, but life isn’t a transaction. It’s war. And right now, you’re fighting it with ideals — not strategy.
But here’s where you still win — you’ve tasted discipline, and that’s rare. Now stop begging the world to value it. Build something that makes your silence louder than their choices. Hit the gym — not to be seen, but to feel unshakable. Learn — not to impress, but to dominate conversations. Lead — not to control, but so people feel your presence even when you're silent.
You're not broken. You're just unfinished. And if you keep confusing victimhood with virtue, you’ll never evolve. Burn that bitterness. Mold it into ambition. The man you want to be won’t be found by looking for women. He’s built by confronting the mirror — and owning both the pride and the pain.
What if he is staying virgin not out of choice🌚
I guess you didn’t get the point. The things that you said I have everything already. I have a decent physique I hit the gym daily. I have decent looks as I can attract girls. I am earning well enough for my age. I get a lot of dates and things have escalated too in most of the cases but I have restrained myself so that I can stay aligned with my moral values.
I am not really expressing a victim mindset. I just want to understand the situation. After chasing the excitement in their early 20s most girls feel really lonely when they start losing their charms maybe in late 20s and 30s trying their best to get a guy for marriage . And the girls who are already virgin they want to lose it in fomo. I don’t understand why they can’t value a decent guy stay by his side and grow together.
And its not just about me. I am standing on behalf of every male out there who are pure souls but due to lack of experience stuck with promiscuous girls. Don’t want to remind you about the recent drum Cases.
Most probably, you are meeting the wrong girls then. I feel there are many girls out there who wanted to be someone's first and last love. Maybe the issue is not you, it is the people you are meeting
Maybe you are right. But nowadays most women are driven by fomo. They don’t want to think for themselves.
Stop obsessing over virginity. Fact of the matter is women want to have good sex with someone they like. If you haven't even had sex once, you're not an ideal partner because you have zero experience being a partner.
Most guys want women with no past and most women want guys with some past. It's just how biology works , you can live in denial all you like but that's just how it is.
It’s true but a women who had sex multiple times won’t be easily satisfied by anyone not even her partner and she will have a tendency of cheating. And there are other factors too so they won’t really make a good partner anyway. Also a woman will always be attached to the guy who broke her virginity. That’s how the psychology works.
Yes for casuals they are the best but not for a permanent connection.
U should be glad that you have dodged those bullets, blud 🤡
Yes I have experienced a lot and I know all the red flags now. but in the end all I want is a happy ending, a good family with a decent wife and a kid. But looking at these girls nowadays I have lost all hopes. Probably I am not asking for too much :)
If you perceive yourself to be on some moral high ground (which is perfectly okay) by being a virgin, why are you feeling sad when girls reject you for a non-virgin guy? And why the hell are you wasting other people's time by going on dates, just tell them upfront that you are a virgin and you expect them to be a virgin as well, only then would you consider going on a date.
I feel the problem is that you expect to get rewarded by being a virgin, and want that girls go gaga after hearing that you haven't had sex ever. That's not how the world works my friend, you don't get good boy marks for being a virgin.
Perhaps you are correct maybe I want to be acknowledged. I agree on this point that world is not fair. But still want to understand this situation.
And I am not really wasting anyone’s time going on dates. It is agreed mutually and the mon virgin girls are usually the ones who want to give a chance to a virgin guy after being ditched by many men. But I can’t really accept them after hearing their past. I am pretty sure if their parents will really respect them after hearing those stories.
Believe me they are the ones usually make all the efforts not me. But the girls usually in their early 20s usually don’t want to accept guys like us and after being ditched at a later point of time they want princess treatment by a decent guy who will take care of her future.
That’s my point why a decent girl chose to be promiscuous when they had a chance to have a good person early on. Maybe after being ditched the good person will become a playboy and the cycle will repeat.
If you are so particular about this you should try meeting with girls from tier 2/tier 3 towns with conservative background or a girl who lived with parents most of her life.
You will find a girl like that. Attractions work differently for men and women and so are values. She might prefer virgin boy but if you talk about virginity in first few meetings she might think you are some sort of a creep, who want to dominate her. I met many girls through arrange marriage and many of them just brought up themselves that they were with someone.
Most of them are from small town or rural areas only who is staying in city for job/study purpose unfortunately. And you are correct girls usually brought up their past and it’s a good trait tbh instead of lying and finding out later. And you are correct I should not talk about virginity at first but usually its the girls usually shift the conversation to sexual stuffs idk why. Usually the non virgin ones.
So how is it going with your arrange marriage findings? Do you have the same criteria as mine or you are okay with anything? Not sure abt your past though.
Would love to hear about your experience it will help me too.
don't spoon feed answers. if they ask about virginity, just say " I won't tell, you make a guess" and move on with other stuff
They don’t ask usually. Somehow they just assume that I have a high body count. Not sure why. They get disappointed when I hit them with the truth.
I understand there is an itch for full disclosure, but trust me man, never tell a women with how many girls you did it didn't slept with. Let's say your body count was 3 or 0 still, let them keep guessing and thinking and fantasizing. You spill the beans and open your cards in the game for nothing