Value your relationships!!
Guys, if you have someone in your life who loves you deeply, a girlfriend, a boyfriend, your parents, or even a close friend, please value their time and their effort. Do not assume they will always be there just because they are today.
There was a time in my life when I had very little. My salary was forty thousand. I had stress, responsibilities, and so many worries about the future. But I also had a very loving girlfriend. She stood by me when I was unsure of myself, when I was trying to figure out life, and when I did not have much to offer except my intentions. I should have protected that relationship. I should have shown up more. Instead, I took her time and her care for granted.
Back then, I kept telling myself that once I earned more, once life became stable, once things were better, I would be more present. I thought I had time. I was wrong.
Today I earn well. I can afford things. I live comfortably. I can give myself a good standard of living. But the one person who walked with me through the hardest phase is not here anymore. And no amount of money or comfort fills that gap. When you lose someone who truly loved you, you do not just lose a person. You lose a part of your past, your growth, and your sense of being understood.
The worst part is knowing that I was not there when she needed me, and now that I need someone in my life, there is no one. That realization hits harder than any struggle I had when I was broke. Struggling with less money is easier than sitting with regret.
So if someone calls you, checks on you, waits for you, listens to you, or makes time for you, do not brush it off. Do not postpone love for later. Do not assume people will stay no matter how little you give back. They leave quietly when they feel unseen, and when they go, they take something with them that you cannot replace.
I am sharing this because I do not want anyone else to learn this the hard way. Success feels empty when you have no one to share it with. Love, care, and presence are not things you can buy later. If you have them today, hold them with both hands.
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Not always true though. Take my example, I attended all my friends events, their engagements, wedding, listened to their stories. Noone even wished me on my birthday. Money is what's truly important in the end, in relationships only blood relationships matter.
You seem to have a nice heart! Hopefully love (in any form) will find your way! :)
Thank You. I wish the same for you😁
I stand , stood and will always stand by a person who is so special to me , I hold the thread of the relationship single handedly , but I get not even 10% in return , yet with pain i continue to do so . Every day passes with heaviness due to a hope of being noticed some day ...its a battle of self respect and love , attachment vs detachment, wish I lose hold of this thread someday to attain peace as iam tired !!! Dont know why somepeople are always unlucky in relationships insipite of intentions being genuine .!
You are gem of a person if you are able to give love selflessly without any great expectations. Hold on brother, right time will come. Don’t loose hope. God is watching everything.
Only rarest and rarest of people have this ability. Never loose this quality of yours.
One lesson, it was always with me, that i gotta cherish who i have in life right now, be there for them irrespective of time and money, because of that i made wonderful friends who check on me and never hesitate to come for me, and i do the same for them.
Absolutely!! Living in present is very important. I have realised the most important thing is to love yourself. Better late than never. Once we start loving ourself and accept who we are, right kind of people will automatically get attracted to that energy!!
Been there done that.
If it would have been true love, it would have never gone. What you had might be an excellent friendship, not necessarily love. I fought really hard really long before realising this.
Some people really do this out of their loneliness or to get a support anchor for their life's "storm" period and they do it so good so long, that makes you feel like love, but thats just their need, probably a long running need, it only lasts as long as their struggles/non-independent era do, it never lasts lifelong.
Love is like breathing, you don't stop breathing when its gets hard to breath. You fight for every single breath every moment till you die. You will never be able to provide anybody assuredly, consistently or forever in the way they desire, then your idea of love will never stick around. Real love lives whether the other person can reciprocate the same or not. Take general example of you and your parents, none of you give up or abandon each other under any situation. They always care about their child, and you will always care about them no matter how different you all are. (This only applies to general good household situations)
If a person really loves someone, its the only necessary and sufficient thing (loyalty + commitment being the only mandatory thing besides) to be with them forever, choose them, fight for them. You dont need anything back from them for loving them. Your love them because that makes you happy. You do things for them because you feel happy doing it. These things cant change based on how much or what you get from them.
If you need anything back from them for loving them ever, you better open your eyes and stop calling that love. Thats a transactional relation, a deep friendship at best. Nobody should start any serious relationship unless they are dead serious about the other person for rest of their life, unconditionally.
PS - I am not favouring abusive relations. Those are strictly lost cause and anyone should come out of them ASAP.
Find someone who loves you unconditionally, not when they find it convenient.
It’s a hard truth and it takes time for some people to realize this. People who are fortunate to get a second chance to fix something should realise this and never make those mistakes again. And yes, not having expectations with someone you love, is difficult in current generation. People who have mastered this and do this selfless, are people who can take it long term. Giving respect to each other and to each others family should still be bare minimum In a relationship. Wouldn’t deny that expectation from a partner.
I lost my grandfather almost 2 years ago, he loved me so much that I believe no one in my life can give the same amount of love, my mother loves me too much but the connection I had with my grandfather was not measurable, he always wanted me to become successful & with him.
I have never made a girlfriend maybe because the love he gave me was enough to live life happy, to be practical what I learned about love is unconditional & we can't get love from money, fame, beauty, cars or seeing any other luxury.
I don't believe in even marrying because nowadays if you go for AM setup, you may be cheated as your wife may be someone past.
I believe,don't make a girlfriend if you can't marry & live happily.
Can feel your pain. I hope you were able to give the same love to him as well and he went happily from this world. You are absolutely correct. No one should get married if they are not able to give the same love to their partner. Doing this just for the namesake destroys no only their partners life but also their families especially in India.
Same thing happened to me... I lost all the hope of life by losing that one person . Now the meaning of life is different.
Can relate to you totally. It’s like a feeling of death where one person who is there through all these years, suddenly is not there in your life. It’s a complete flip. But we gotta be there and hold ourself together. Give yourself time and start loving yourself and focus on things that add meaning to your life. You will feel much better. All the best :)
Priorities to different ho sakti hai na, aur aapko gf jo chor kar chali gayi, is baat ki kya guarantee hai ki uska new partner wo vibe ya efforts reciprocate karega, on the other hand you are talking about it at least, some people say never go back to your ex but what I feel is jab tak zindagi hai you can do whatever the f*ck you want, just live it all!
Idea is the Same. I am happy that I know what mistakes I did and I plan to never repeat them. It’s difficult to explain this to other people of how a persona can change. I know my worth and I hope to find someone of similar mindset very soon.
