SquishyMochi
SquishyMochi

Valentine's Day Crisis

I'm a mediocre software engineer in Bangalore who's content with his career and comp, for the time being and is nearing 28 years age. As the title of the post suggests, I've never been in a healthy relationship in my life and I feel so void and insecure when I see couples pda-ing at Church Street, Lalbagh Garden etc. The situation aggravates during Valentine's week. This all would sound funny, but I'm tussling with this thought in my mind for quite some time.😞

How to cope up with this situation? Need some practical advice about this. Thanks.

YOE: 4.5 years TC: 30-40 lpa

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WobblyMuffin
WobblyMuffin

Bas Aaj raat kaat lo , kal se wahi feeka feeka hai har jagah 😅 PS - Get married, you never how beautiful it turns out to be.

SquishyMochi
SquishyMochi

Personally, I fear arranged marriages 😅. Nowadays love marriages are better version of arranged marriages only, wherein the partners themselves assess their compatibility and expectations before committing, as opposed to, being thrown into the arrangement (aka "arranged marriage") by their parents, only to find themselves screwed up later, and screwing up their partner.😑 Pessimistic, I know, but not unreal...

SwirlyTaco
SwirlyTaco

Love marriage = Suicide. Arranged marriage = Homicide.

The end result is the same.

SillyJellybean
SillyJellybean

You should feel lucky you don't have to see nibba nibbi shit in your life buddy, the couples you're feeling jealous of won't even stay together beyond a year or two.

No relationship is better than toxic relationship, and most Indians don't know how to have healthy relationships.

Partners come and go, work on yourself and preserve your time energy and sanity for the right one.

SquishyMochi
SquishyMochi

Reassuring words 🥲.
Thing is, even after knowing all this, sometimes I lose it.
It's everywhere around (parks, social media and so on), so much so that I start questioning myself " Is there something wrong with me, etc etc".😑

SillyJellybean
SillyJellybean

Understandable. You are not alone my friend.

PerkyWalrus
PerkyWalrus
CARS2416mo

Get married

FluffyNugget
FluffyNugget
Plivo16mo

Get into gaming or similar things where u forget at times what time it is. Then next day ur free time is occupied with thoughts around that activity.

SquishyMochi
SquishyMochi

Recently started playing Mario Odyssey on Nintendo 😅

GigglyLlama
GigglyLlama

Get Married or Sign up on Hinge and Upgrade to Premium+

SquishyMochi
SquishyMochi

Hmm. Haven't had any luck in the prompts department of Hinge yet😅.
Not sure, if plus membership would help

GigglyLlama
GigglyLlama

It will ! 😝

SwirlyTaco
SwirlyTaco

Outsource search to parents

FluffyWaffle
FluffyWaffle
Lowe's16mo

Trip pe chale jao

JazzyQuokka
JazzyQuokka

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