Urge to talk to your ex?
Hey so, I had break up a month back and our relationship lasted for about 5 months.
Before breaking up we met and gave closure also were in touch for a week to make sure things are not crazy at both ends.
Since then we are in no contact and its been a month. Of course it was very difficult initial few weeks but got better as time passed by.
But since a week or so, I suddenly very strongly have got the urge to just check upon her once.
Just not sure if it's the right thing to do at this point.
So has anyone reached out to their ex after no contact and if they did how did it go?
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First question, why did you break up with her?
Few critical information were not told to me until 4th or 5th month which kind of made me loose trust in her as we both had decided to be fully transparent from the start, which I followed as well.
But her answer was, She wasn't sure how I would've reacted and hence didn't mention.
Never go back to an ex, there is always something better waiting for you. Start being the person you want to date and the right person will find you.
Please don’t. If you still somewhere in your heart wish good for her, the best you can do is to not become a ghost of her past and haunt the person whom she’s currently dating. Vice - versa
Oh man, what a line! This might stay with me for a while.
Yeah, that was the delima. Once if I show I'm still available emotionally we might consider each other as an emotional fall back if things go south anytime in the future, which is surely not good for our next relationships.
So I have almost made up my mind to not contact her ever again.
I’ve been on the receiving side of things. What I had with her beyond beautiful but her still being in touch with her xs is where I drew the line. Now she’s hurt again and so am I.
once you break up, DO NOT reach out to your partner thinking sab sahi waisa hojayega. There will be no trust, no commitment. nothing.
It will actually ruin you like it did my friend.
Agree on that.
I just wanted to talk once but it may not just lead to only talking.
Still not fully over the 1st time things didn't work out, as u said 2nd time may give me lifelong emotional baggage. Man that's scary.
Check in on her if you feel it's the right thing to do, but trust your own judgment because no one fully understands your situation or emotions. If you feel it's best not to, and it's causing you distress or distraction, consider meeting new people—not just for romantic reasons but for different experiences. Also, try picking up new habits and interests.
Thank you!
I think I decided not to contact her again. as I don't see a future with her anymore, I'm scared to trigger those emotions again temporarily.
This urge to check in mainly came up because she was there with me post break up for a while to ensure I was getting better.
But yeah, I will start indulging myself in other activities to keep busy and self improvement.
One more reason why I decided not to reach out is, she may have moved on and might be talking to somebody.
So me reaching out at this time would be catastrophic for them.
imo you've got nothing to gain by trying to initiate contact, it's-ve risk reward endeavour.
True, realized it today and decided not to contact ever again.
Don't want either of us to go back to same situation we were in, a month back.
Thanks man!
my lifelong gf is getting married suddenly to some guy whom she met via family. Long story short, she's gonna move to a weird country with him after marriage which is Nigeria when she's herself form Kolkata and now my friends keep mocking me about her with typical Africa and black mamba jokes😂😂 before this fact, I was deadly missing her, then I was like great.. The choice of country, serves her right. Revenge has been served in a way. 😂
