Unpopular opinion on Marriage

I believe that the concept of marriage for us millenials was ruined by our parent's generation. We saw or heard experiences of mistreatment from in laws or amongst partners. But I believe we as a generation have an opportunity to fix that perception. Our parent's generation is very arrogant and full of ego. There is no concept of 'agree to disagree' among them. Most of the problems can be solved if we agree to disagree and just leave it at that.

Thwre is no answer to this because the question is illogical. This para is just another meaningless rant by some deracinated indian or a wannbe leftist liberal.
Foreigners hug and kiss in public they also have the highest divorce rates.
A successful marriage is not something where husband and wife never fight. It's when both stand up to support one another during difficult times. Every husband and wife fight. Sometimes frequently too. But that doesn't mean their marriage is in shambles. This assumption that a happy family is in where nobody fights is only in fantasy land. This whole notion where PDA is the only proof of love is the nuisance that is leading to divorce in India now.

Hug kisses type of Affection is not common in so called desi homes cause all are before 90s born when there was no globalisation and India was in extreme poverty. Earning 2 times a meal is the type of affection you would like from a father while the mother maintaing the house finance and overall safety of the family unit, over these show case "hugs and kisses". Instead of ranting learn to analyse the roots of why a pattern exist. Now its upon you what type of qualities you want to pass on to your children as they learn from parents action over their words.

This is the most touchy post i have ever seen on GV. In the same boat, bdw. But think of the other side of the impact, it can make u the nicest person in the room and you never introduce such kind of toxicity in your life ever again in future😊

I’m sorry but even if I remove the word “desi” from the question, it doesn’t change the points of the rant. Are all western couples perfect? Are you ready to give more than you receive? Marriage teaches lessons; sometimes, it teaches hard lessons the hard way. It isn’t always about making happiness together. But about making a life together. And life shows you all kinds of days. How willing are you to make an effort to put it all aside and grow together is the question. For some reason, I feel that you purposely avoided the question from the rant. So, all I can say about your point is that marriage is that imperfectly perfect institution that taught me and my wife how to create perfectly imperfect life together. So far, we remain happily hungry learners.

On the flip side atleast I know marrige isnt all holly jolly! Ha sets expectations

Well articulated 💯

As two persons brought up in 2 different cultures and habits and discipline. So it's very important when they come up together in a married life, they should have an approach of listening, communicate with each other, and improve habits that are needed from a societal, family aspect. Sometimes the let go approach is good and going a few steps back is a good way to reset things.

According to me most of the root cause for such broken marriages boils down to money. Women in the first place never had money to support their dreams or wishes. On the other hand men also struggle with money , men have less money hence their family don't listen to them as a result everything happens as per the wish of men's family.

Adding to that men's family who have already went through mental trauma and societal pressure if they wish to improve the conditions the society will not allow them to do.

In conclusion, it's like a man should have money, a good mindset , mentally stable and emotionally available so that at least he can take a stand for his wife and support his family as well.

Totally agree. This can be changed by a generation.

Nibba Nibbi parents have heavy responsibility!