Unmarried men, what is that you seek in your to-be spouse?
Can be a list too. But Only unmarried men
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Meme game should be strong.
Underrated comment, it gets really weird when she doesn't laugh on any of your memes😅
A girl laughing at your memes and stupidity lovingly is way more attractive than a hot one ignoring the things that make you laugh
I think about this from time to time, but never penned it down. so here we go:
Non-negotiables:
she should be empathetic towards other human beings, and animals. do not necessarily have to love and pet animals, but ykwim. i absolutely abhor folks who behave rudely with the lesser privileged people.
have a life outside our relationship/marriage. i'd absolutely love it if my SO has good and supportive friends to hangout, without me and her hanging out together.
there would be no "your" and "mine" in the relationship. everything is ours, and both of us would decide how and what to spend in what way.
she should tell me to my face if i'm doing something wrong, or doing something she doesn't approve of. i'll always try to better myself, so i need to be told specifically. i would not like it if she starts resenting what i'm doing, without me knowing about it. there would never be any competition in between us, regarding anything. in whatever thing one person lacks in, the other would complement. there would be no i vs her in any problem. it's she and i, vs the problem. always.
yes, since two families are going to get involved together, there will be people on both sides who will have ulterior motives. they may even comment on the other person, which s/he may not like. both of us should be cool enough not to engage in it, and just move in. e.g. maybe my so's extended family has a person who commented on something of mine which i did not like, i must not engage in front of everyone, and thrash that person verbally. however, if my SO wants to do so, she's free to do it, if she is also present in the situation. likewise, if someone from my family said something horrible to her, in front of families, it's a little better if she doesn't engage herself. i would absolutely defend her whatever the case right then and there, but i should be the one who rebuttals. i've a reasoning behind this.
let me explain: whenever you engage in such conversations, with your in-laws families, it is very very easy for it to become something massive. in bengali there's a proverb: "jonaki poka theke agun laglo" (fireflies spread this massive wild fire). i absolutely do not want to have rumour spread about my SO in my extended family. i absolutely do not care about what society thinks of me and us, but if we can maintain a good image, where is the harm.
Religion. I'm not religious, but I've absolutely no problem if my SO practices her religion diligently; I might even take part in her religious activities if she wants. But major life decisions must not depend upon religious connotations.
e.g. if she's a conservative catholic, she won't abort the baby, even if her life is on the line. if she's a jehova's witness, she won't accept blood from outside, even in a life-threatening situation. if she's a kattar hindu, she trash talks people from islam. These mustn't be the case at all.
she should be best friends with me (i know this takes time, and i'm more than willing to invest my time and energy here). she should be able to tell me anything, without a shadow of doubt, about anything, without ever fearing about judgements. i should be able to do the same. there should be trust, without an iota of doubt in the mind.
if one of us has taken a decision to do something, without informing the other, the other person should be patient and understanding enough to understand ki, "yaar agar isne bina puche ye decision liya hai abhi k liye, then mera naa janna hi sahi hai, abhi k liye. kuch sochkr e liya hoga. aage jaake toh batayega hi"
political views should be something around the center. not too right, not too left. both have good and bad sides, so it'll be great to listen to both of them views and jo sahi lage jis situation pe, usko apnay. and patient enough to understand a different perspective to a certain problem/situation.
political views should be something around the center. not too right, not too left. both have good and bad sides, so it'll be great to listen to both of them views and jo sahi lage jis situation pe, usko apnay. and patient enough to understand a different perspective to a certain problem/situation.
should be able to admit if she's wrong in a certain situation. nothing is more sexier than when someone understands and rectify their decisions
Leadership like Sonia Gandhi, Diplomatic like sushma swaraj, Enthusiastic like Saina Nehwal, Sensible like Sudha Murti Last but not least
Beautiful like Deepika..
Bas itna sa khwab hai
Not a pessimist but here are the DON’Ts:
Don’t leave wet towels on the bed, don’t dry wet clothes on dining table under the fan at night, don’t get triggered when I clean and re-arrange the house, don’t leave toilet seat down, don’t keep forwarding when we are watching something together, don’t take my tub of popcorn in your hands in the movies when you first told NO for popcorn when I asked kuch khana hai?
No way you are a man. Are you? for real?
Hence Proved, You are Single
Someone who is well educated and a city-based working professional. She should have a career ambition and should be willing to build her own identity.
I'm totally fine with she drinking. But smoking is kinda no-no.
Someone who reads books and appreciates art. I find these women super-sexy! It's not a non-negotiable though. I'm fine if the girl has other hobbies too.
Someone who loves travel and backpacking. Bonus points if she is a tough traveler and not a very touristy person.
I'm fine if she has a past. But need someone who values relationships and is serious about commitment.
I have zero expectations on cooking or cleaning. My maid will take care of all that. If she wants to try her hands at cooking I really don't mind.
I'm very flexible in most day to day activities. And I'm fine if she's a nerdy or weirdo as well. Communication and commitment is key. Love can slowly happen.
Someone who can manage her finances and has a decent knowledge about personal finance and financial independence for women.
Hope I am not asking for too much :)
She should be able to order food at restaurants... Talk to the maid... Talk to the staffs scanning bills in the malls.... Literally talk to everyone on my behalf...as I am an introvert.
Simpel requirements. Should be beautiful. Not a feminist. Should reduce my worries instead of increasing them. Communicate.
*No smoking ,drinking and sleeping around. If she loves the gym, the deal is done immediately. If she is active on social media and posts a lot ,a deal breaker. I think i can ask that as i have an amazing body,6 packs and earn good.
no you cant. dont expect bro... you will regret. Its 2023. Most of my friends are making north of 50LPA and are still struggling to manage the expectations of their wives. Most of these girls arr average looking. One of my friend went to Europe for honeymoon, six months later his wife asked for another trip. guy is fcked. works 12 hours a day.. earns 60+LPA but after taxes it reduces a lot. on top of that he is living in one of the most expensive locality in Gurgaon. Difficult bro..