Unhinged Rant on a random Thurdsday
It feels like I woke up one day and the world collectively decided it was time to get married out of boredom. Everyone is doing it, not because they are wildly in love, but because loneliness is loud and society has a timeline it likes to shove down our throats. I am not bitter, I am just becoming increasingly neurotic with excellent self awareness. I am 27 and somehow both independent and painfully lonely. All my exes, the men who once declared me the love of their life with full chest confidence, are now married, which feels personal and honestly a little rude. REALLY! one of the wives even dances to the song the guy dedicated to me FIRST!!!!! WTF!!!!!! I try to make relationships work, I really do, but somewhere along the way their personalities fully arrive and I realize I cannot survive this long term without emotionally combusting. And what is going on with men lately, because verbal abuse and slut shaming are apparently being handed out like party favors. I have had a life before them. A real one. I do not want to pretend I was seventeen and untouched and waiting patiently for the first man who looked in my direction. I have loved people deeply and lost them, and I want to be able to say that out loud without being punished for it. People tell me not everything needs to be shared with a partner, that secrets are healthy, but I do not want a relationship built on selective honesty. I do not want to be controlled, edited, or slowly reshaped into something more acceptable. I want to live my life according to my own rules. And men make me wanna puke nowadays, they are just so fucking intolerable and control freaks that its suffocating to be with one. And yes, I am lonely, in a way that settles into your bones late at night, but still i feel like I would still rather be alone than marry the wrong person just to meet a deadline. All i do is watch rom coms ,sit coms, documentaries and what nots because i am unable to sit with my thoughts silently because my thoughts well they suck , they make me fucking depressed. I try walking to the gym one day without earphones and that was fucking hell. What is this horrible feeling?
A man can flip every point you have said and say the same about women, when you enter a relationship, you make compromises and hand control over a part of yourself to your partner, it's necessary to make a relationship work. No relationship in this world is selfless, everything is give and take, you will receive what you will give, If you want a free life , then it's best to live alone, but human beings fool themselves that they have freedom, even someone living single is still controlled by society in so many aspects of their lives, by the government, their boss, their neighbours, that's why one watches rom comes to escape this harsh reality that one can never be truly free in this world.
relate to your words really! single/engaged/married nobody is really free, I can relate why I love sitcoms on repeat again n again! its like comfort food from reality, for your mind!
Yes and this is the reason why people who are depressed sleep more. Sleep is a great escape too
Idk dude, problem imo is before most relationships start - with one person liking a fictional version of the other. And then vice versa. And obviously, once reality sets in, people show their "true colours 😂". We overthink too much, and care too little, what a fkin irony lmao
I agree 100%. We mistake imagination for compatibility and call it chemistry.
Bada bura kata hai inka
Lol
I totally feel you, the EXACT same feeling. I’m 26 and my parents are after my life to marry anyone who comes my way, otherwise I would be alone forever because I will not be in my “prime” and “demand” once I age more :)
ek toh ye prime aur demand meri samjh nahi ate. i think i look so much better than what i looked in my teens. Infact all my female friends for that matter have grown into the most beautiful bunch in their late 20s. Ye society ko age se kya obsession hai i would never understand.
Being born as a woman is a curse in itself I guess
Someone please summarise this please..
Ok.this is the summary.. "The author, a Year-old single woman, expresses frustration and loneliness amid peers rushing into marriages driven by societal pressure rather than love. She reflects on failed relationships where exes, once devoted, now wed others—even one whose wife uses "their" song—while modern men exhibit verbal abuse, slut-shaming, and control, punishing her for her past experiences and demanding selective honesty."
Opposite gender, never got into a relationship, but feel the loneliness and sitting with the thoughts part. Trying to work on myself, as it's the only thing under my control.
Also, I was planning to go to random events like book clubs, board games, to increase the surface area of luck. See if that can help you.
All the best. Hope you find someone who's worth sharing life with.
hoping the same for you
There are a lot of meaningful communities in BLR, even after being married (and not lonely), I like joining them, there is a morning exercise group. Yoga group, travel group, biking group, etc I join them casually and have made few good friends in each of them.
