Understanding decision-making in relationships - my perspective 💞
Saw a post - https://share.gvine.app/n5KUw1jprHUTRKVm9
Lots of people replied. I think it's a genuine concern which should be talked about in more depth around the topic.
I'm trying to summarise my understanding - Girls are in their peak around 18yo to 25yo and men are at their peak from 25yo to 32yo, in general! Situations are completely in your favour the moment you stabilise as a man.
So as a young man, if you feel rejections in your love life in younger age - my suggestion is work hard, build yourself and you'll have choices during your peak time - (like this dude is having) - however, i suggest just don't create situations like this - always be decisive on what you want from day 1. That's what separates men from women.
Remember 'doubt is death' in a man's life. Believe me, I've seen people getting destroyed very closely in front of my eyes, because of doubts.
Go ahead and share your lessons that we as a man should stick to no matter what! How are you thriving in your relationships in such fragile situations? Anything else!
Also, feel free to disagree, it's simply my perspective! Counter thoughts are welcome 🙂
P.S - I hope this person finds clarity soon! My motive is not to project him as a bad person, but to simply spread a little more awareness around this topic so that we can avoid this pitfall earlier in our lives.
I have always wanted to be in a serious relationship, and had some expectations about the girl, if I had any doubt I never chased or explored that option in the past.but I never found the girl because of this, and because of this strict criteria I dated only very few girls and things didn't materialize. Now I am 32 and still searching, I think sometimes If I had tried the casual relationship path, maybe it might have converted to something permanent? But then k read this guys question and wonder again. I am fit and looks okay, still get interests from girls, but I am still in that zone to find the best one and keep her till I die. Suggestions? I always wanted to be a one woman man, turns out that's the recipe for a zero woman man?
@LustrousBlast , please do a favour to both of you, and don’t marry her. I am a woman, I must be a bit older to you.. and giving this advice coming from years of wisdom and experience. You might just enter the hell kind of life if you marry when you are already feeling unattracted to her, and giving a second thought.
Mujhe to ragebait lag raha hai vo.
Why did he move in with her then? What obligation did he feel?
He is stupid....why to play with someone's feeling.
Well written!
