JazzyMochi

Unable to adjust Work and Life

I got married a year ago. My husband and I live in a rented accommodation. His side of the family is outside the town. My husband's work timings are absolutely random and there is no routine which i can have. I am unable to sleep before he comes home safely - because you know how traveling these days are especially on roads. I have the responsibility of my parents and pet dog also. And am always running between both houses. Honestly, i don't know the definition of "home" anymore.

I have not been able to work because of all this chaos- i feel exhausted and fatigued. I think i am reaching a point on burnout.

To keep a full time domestic help i need money which i need to earn if i can work..my husband has also started belittling me for not contributing financially.

I don't know where to start from! Pl help

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PrancingNarwhal

Meesho12mo

I think both husband and wife need to show empathy for each other here. You're managing 2 houses and a dog which would be hectic and he is hustling in a job with random timings which ain't no joke either.

Now either you start complaining to him about your burnout which I'm sure he also must be feeling, or start asking about his mental situation and have him open up. This should avoid belittling of yours in terms finances.

You both are working hard and thus should think about each other's efforts rather than personal burnouts, this will make easier to come to a solution.

JazzyMochi

Freelancer12mo

Thank you for the advice. Sadly i didn't consider that he would be feeling burnout also...i guess we have been just trying to prove who is busier to demand attention as a result of which we grew distant

PrancingNarwhal

Meesho12mo

I see.

Lot of times I've felt that I'm getting the shorter end of the stick in a relationship while the other person is ignorant of my efforts. I then plainly put this out to the other partner with the core inherent issue. A fight happens which is a better thing than the silence of anger building up inside which makes you feel Ill intended about all or any action of your partner.

This is just my personal observation.