Trending @HCL; HCL Overwork led to Break-up
I’ve been dating this girl for 5 years. She works at a BPO, and we’ve been through everything together. Our parents know about us, and we were planning to get married soon. This year, with Valentine’s Day, we decided to plan a weekend trip. We wanted to make it memorable before getting married. We saved up and booked a nice hotel for the weekend. It was expensive way more than what we could afford. I applied for leave a month in advance and was honest with my manager about it. He approved it without any issues. But then, last week, things went wrong at work. The project went off track, the client was furious and shouting at us on calls, and some deliverables were delayed. It got so bad that even senior managers had to step in to calm the client down.
And then my manager called me and said, Sorry, you can’t take leave anymore. We need everyone to work. I begged him and explained how important this trip was for me and my girlfriend, but he didn’t care. I had no choice but to cancel everything. We even lost a lot of money because of it. Valentine’s weekend came and went, but instead of spending it with my girlfriend like we’d planned, I was stuck in front of my laptop working late hours while trying to fix the mess at work. My girlfriend was really upset. At first, she didn’t say much but was clearly hurt that I couldn’t prioritize her overwork this one time. Over the next few days, things between us got worse. She started saying she felt like I’d always choose work over her and that she couldn’t imagine being in a marriage where she wasn’t my priority. And then she broke up with me. She told me she needed someone who could stand up for her and put her first when it mattered most. I tried explaining my situation and how helpless I was, but she didn’t want to hear it. After 5 years together, it was over.
I really need someone to talk to, this is killing me
All I can say that your girlfriend was so immature that she couldn't understand your situation. You could have asked her what she would have done if she would be on your place. It's not like that this is happening everytime. This is for the first time it happened with you and she should have understand it instead of accusing you and broke up with you. Just try to heal from your pain and focus on your career. It's good that she left you right now. Else, you would have suffered a lot once you both got married.
It would be hard to believe that prioritizing your work over the weekend trip was the only reason. It could be a threshold point, perhaps there were other overlooked reasons that were not taken care in your relationship, that you would and she would understand better.
What others have written earlier is unfortunately correct. This would have led to more problems in future. This is probably not a bad thing to have happened.
Dude, It’s better to let go of a partner who cannot understand the urgencies. It shows that she had no concern for your job and you being employed. Or not. After marriage it’s possible that this would have headed to divorce and alimony. You have some good stars that you’ve escaped.Better talk upfront with your future partner about all the possibilities, ensure your partner understands.Yes family first agreed but at times your job and team may need it. Not every weekend, every month, every year and every project. If that happens go for better opportunities.
FOR 5Y SHE WAS WITH U I UP AND DOWNS BUT FOR THIS Simple reason she left seems fishy maybe she is waiting for a reason to leave u. Because girls are so smart that they will act very innocent just think about it. I was too in a love for 8y but she left girls are not that innocent as u think and feel happy that she left now marry the girl that yours parents choice you will be happy. If u need any suggestion u cam dm me. Take care bro
Bro congrats. After marriage you may need to drop many such plans to take care of your family. Or get a girl who can afford your finance and become a full time home maker husband.
Man! That's Traumatic, Please take care
