Trending @Capgemini; The Weight of Loneliness and Lost Dreams..
I am a 24-year-old guy, used to being alone, but the weight of it often feels unbearable. Reflecting on my life, I struggle to see anything but failure. I failed in JEE, didn't get into a good college, and couldn't land a job at a reputable company. My dreams have always seemed out of reach.
The deepest wound came from love. There was a girl I loved deeply since childhood. I dreamed of marrying her, having a daughter together, and building a life filled with love. We were happy together, and she was everything to me – my friend, my best friend, my family, my love. But in a matter of days, everything shattered when she broke up with me. I lost her and, with her, every dream I ever cherished. Despite my efforts, I couldn't save our relationship. The loss was so profound that I detached myself from everyone and everything.
I used to have good friends, but I chose to disappear from their lives. I deactivated all my social media accounts, isolating myself further. Now, I have no one to talk to, no one to share my heart with. Nothing excites me, nothing makes me happy.
In an attempt to escape the pain, I left home and moved to a different city for work. But instead of finding solace, I spiraled into smoking and drinking, ruining my health. Now, I rely on medications, perform poorly at my job, and haven't received any appraisals. My physique is poor, my looks are unimpressive, and I feel utterly worthless. Sometimes, I wonder why I am still living. I look in the mirror and see a shadow of the happy, fun-loving guy I was five years ago, surrounded by friends and in love. Now, I'm just an addict, wasted and lost.
My parents deserved a better son. The only reason I stay alive is for them. I have no personal goals or dreams left. My only dream now is to support my family financially and keep them happy.
Buddy, you have more important reason to stay positive which is your parents.
A girl can't decide your life. She doesn't give a damn about you now.
Be positive and step up in life.
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Please remember that mental health is equally important as physical health. You are an educated person. Seek help, you have the whole.life ahead of you.
When you hit the ball down harder ( lows of life ) , the ball( you) will bounce higher! This is a phase you should take challengingly and you will come back with flying colours! Have a routine and physical activities to keep yourself same. Nothing is permanent my friend and better days are ahead of you! Don't ever let yourself down :).
Thanks for the motivation. Really means a lot🙏
Hey man I'm myself a 25 year old kid, I got a -4 in my jee result, that didn't stop me from taking up engineering, I worked hard, despite the effort I had 4 backlogs in my engineering degree, but made sure to clear it before 7th sem to be eligible for placement, my college management and the trustee had issues and the college shut down in final year, no placement!, fought hard gained a spot in cg off campus placement, worked hard again but despite all the work ended up in a support project past 2 years, now the project is ending as well, will continue to work hard and make it somewhere
And heartbreak I definetely had too, lost all my friends and gf because of a rumour spread by some brats
The point is work you ass off despite all setbacks, don't expect results and despite any result work for yourself, work for your parents
And toh yaar ur just 24 year old man, enjoy life u fall learn to get up and enjoy that process, Don't take so much load, life is meant to live everyday You die one day, but YOU LIVE EVERYDAY
Thank you so much for your words. Your journey has been inspiring. Yes I can't lose hope and have to fight back. Thanks for the motivation🙏
Yeah man, have dreams have goals have a standard of living
Join a gym, workout to beat peak Arnold one day
Work for that Rolls Royce
Once you get a RR, work in order to fuel it up and show up to work in it
Make a promise to yourself ul never lower ur standards to anyone or anything no matter
Work hard, save ur PLs and go for a holiday once in 3 or 4 months, Himalayas, kanyakumari , lakshadweep, Gujarat, Arunachal Pradesh see every nook and corner of India, if possible go abroad
Make memories that you can tell your grandchildren one day one story of something you did and you never run out of stories to tell, be the cool uncle to ur nephew and niece and to ur friends children Be the coolest grandpa to ur grandchildren
See I have appeared JEE mains qualified too , got into NIT tool always stress of couldn't do better , got into service based company here no good projects and learning so I believe time is real thing bro , and whatever is coming across our life is to teach us, I am also sometimes worried depressed will continuously form a loop around me like I didn't do that in past so that I am here , I should have done this or that these self critic thoughts made me worrysome so many times, but the good thing is do not stop for long, take a day for a break whenever feel like doing nothing next day get up try new things , try playing sports or any activity that can be refreshing and you will.make some bonds with people not so deep but at least your mind will be in much better state. Plan out your day and try studying and working towards your goal give it 2hrs a day at least but be consistent. Get up yaar and remember it's a cycle kabhi Khushi , kabhi gam wali cycle. And that's totally fine. You'll get stronger by standing everytime after falling.
Yes I have to step up, leave the past and do good things for the future for me and my family. Thanks for your words🙏
Dear friend, we grow through the lows of life...not the highs. Please note that you are not alone in this. Every human being has their share of lows when they felt exactly same as you. It comes sooner or later in life. After 5 years, when you look back, you will thank this tough time, for without this, your real potential will not come out. Stay put, you will get through this...this too shall pass. And remember that to your parents or some others, you mean the world....remember them and consider them in your purpose of life too. Much love and do visit the Well-Being Hub on Teams. You will get ample of channels and support materials to get through this phase of life. Please do remember, this is a phase and it does not define you, but will shape you towards your goal for sure, if you decide. All the best and sleep well!
Thank you so much for your words. It really means a lot. I feel so emotional that strangers are coming out and supporting me in my low phase. Thanks a lot!
Life's journey is full of ups and downs, and it's completely normal to have moments of self-doubt or regret. Remember, every experience teaches us something valuable. If you're feeling stuck or worried about the past, take a break when you need it. Give yourself permission to rest, then come back stronger.
Engage in activities that refresh your mind, like playing sports or exploring new hobbies. Connect with others, even if it's just for a casual chat; it can do wonders for your mental state. Set small, achievable goals, like dedicating 2 hours a day to learning or working towards something you're passionate about.
Life is a cycle of happiness and challenges, and that's okay. Each time you stand up after falling, you grow stronger. Keep moving forward, and remember that consistency is key. You're on your unique path, and brighter days are ahead.
Thank you so much for taking out time and suggesting so many things that would help me. Really means a lot. Thank you🙏
Hey buddy.! Sorry to hear about everything you mentioned, but lows in life is what everyone faces(including me rn). I hope you find the strength to roll back and make a comeback to a better version of yourself sooner.! Be positive, your parents are gonna see the best version of their son soon .! 😇
Thank you so much for your words. It really means a lot 🙏. Strength to you as well
