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Something personal . I am in love with a guy. He's from same village as me. He's have stable income . But there is huge financial gap between our families. When I told about him in family, everyone is furious. It's their ego. My father is not talking with me and my mother. He's not coming home. Acting very aggressively. What should I do ? My father said even if I die, I will never say yes to marriage. And if you want to do it. Do it, forget about us there will be no relation between us. I am crushed. I love this guy by heart, And on the other end my father is being stubborn. I am feeling down, I am having suicidle thoughts. My bf is saying to give them time to accept this. But my father is behaving very weirdly. He's acting too much aggressively
15 years in Relationship..We both waited 5 years to have my wife’s parents to agree to our marriage. Eventually, they agreed. All it takes is commitment and how strong you both are. I can resonate what you’re going through. Be strong and try convincing your parents even if it takes time. It will be long wait and it will test you both in many ways, but if you get through this it will be worth it. Never commit anything stupid it's not worth it.
If you trust your bf , and you think he will be your better half, then first try to convince your mother or other elders at home , tell your father about his good quality and how he can be a good partner for you, if things still remain the same , you should go with your bf (last option), but suicide is cowardice act, be positive, refresh yourself with travel and good music, movies or what you like, first give priority yourself before anyone because life is most precious.
I will try
I have gone through this same situation but it was my mom, only option is give some time and trust me things will work out. It took me 2 years 2 convince but now all good
It seems similar to my friend's situation. Her boyfriend was financially struggling, but he prepared well and got a government job. Meanwhile, she somehow convinced her family to stop looking for potential brides. Later, once his financial situation improved, they finally accepted him.
Perhaps your parents didn't want you to struggle financially. Consider setting some goals for the next 2-3 years and use that time to gain your family's trust. You both will be more mature and better equipped to handle the situation by then.
For now, it might be best not to make any hasty decisions. Go with the flow and try not to stress.
I hope My parents will give me that much time . Trying to stay positive. Sometimes I crumble.
Let me tell you, ma, there are worse cases than yours. We are still fighting to stand up for love, and suicide is never an option, not even in our dreams. Remember, this person is not the only one in our lives. Our first love is our parents, who have loved us more than anything. It's natural for parents to react strongly because it's hard for them to accept such news all at once. They might yell at you, and there could be periods where they don't talk to you—months, maybe even years. But you have to fight for both your loves: your family and your boyfriend. Put yourself in your parents' place and try to understand their pain. They have had many dreams about your marriage.
And just to let you know, I am also at this point where I have told my parents about my love, and they had a similar reaction. My situation is even more challenging because, as a South Indian, I am in love with a North Indian guy, and we have been in a relationship for nine years. But we are still fighting because we need our parents as well as our love.
So don't lose hope. Stay calm, fight back with the situation, and try to sort things out. And never forget one thing: your parents started loving you before you came to this earth.
I will fight. Will make sure to be strong
Give some time to your parents. Time changes.
Just make him understand ( ur father)
I pinged my father today. As he's not speaking with us from 2 days. I pinged him that please talk to us. I will never go beyond your words. Sorry. Please talk with mother as she's is in tension. He read msg but no rply
I’m not going to read all the comments - 1). How is the situation at boy’s place? Are they fine and willing to accept this relationship? 2). “Time” - that’s what will matter here. Give your family time to absorb this thought of your’s. And this timeline can be different from each individual. Do not try and act differently. Be yourself. Although he has disconnected himself soon he’ll be back. 3). You did really a good thing. What’s the love which is not fighting for (fighting here doesn’t refers to going against anyone but taking into account everyone, now that’s what real fight is). Hang on girl l, you’re a fighter.
His family is ready. Only my family is creating issue. Thank you for encouragement.
You will know the "why" when u ll be parent
I do not oppose love marriage but our parents are right in decision making most of the time. They are experienced with judging.
I am saying this because I regret everyday. What my parents were judging their family was right. After a few months of marriage i understood.
Always parents must be your priority.
If your bonding is true, gradually your parents also agree.
