JumpyMuffin
JumpyMuffin

[THREAD] Flirting 101: The Dating Game

Hey Folks, I am a 22Y M, and want to improve my dating life. I am an extrovert person and can talk to opposite genders very well.

The only issue I face is to build a romantic connection. I suck at that. Don't know why, but flirting makes me feel cringe.

Something about me:

  1. I got my first girlfriend in the 8th standard. Dated for a year.

  2. In class 9th, I experienced love for the first time and ngl I still feel the same for that girl. We dated for two years.

  3. In the 11th and 12th standard, I had 1 girlfriend each standard but couldn't continue for xyz reason.

  4. I then last dated in my third year (last of 2021), but long distance was not my thing.

  5. Since, then I feel cringe whenever I try to flirt and don't want any love shove, because I never felt the same, I felt for that girl in class 9th.

  6. Since, my last breakup I am only able to fulfil my physical needs but now I want to change that and find someone with whom I can build a strong connection

So folks here, who know the ultimate love game here. Please help me out.

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BouncyQuokka
BouncyQuokka

You have better game than most people in India. Not sure what you are expecting here. Try reddit. The virgins there might be able to help..

JumpyMuffin
JumpyMuffin
Contlo20mo

The only thing that is concerning for me is, I am not able to develop any true feelings of love with any woman. This is making me think, WHY?

MagicalQuokka
MagicalQuokka

Sleeping around makes it hard to bond with a person.

WobblyNoodle
WobblyNoodle
InMobi20mo

Weird flex but okay.

JumpyMuffin
JumpyMuffin
Contlo20mo

Not a flex for sure bro. I might not have been able to express my problem.

In simple words, I realized the dating life has fucked majorly after passed 2nd year of college, and I am not able to figure out what has changed for me.

BouncyLlama
BouncyLlama
Cred20mo

Bhai ne grapevine ko quora bana diya

DerpyBoba
DerpyBoba

Bhai yeh konsa tarika hua flex karne ka. mujhe aaj tak gf nahi mili pura school ma

MagicalQuokka
MagicalQuokka

I never seen a humble brag like this one before

GigglyWaffle
GigglyWaffle

How are you able to fulfill your physical need?

JumpyMuffin
JumpyMuffin
Contlo20mo

Friends who are single

WobblyBagel
WobblyBagel

Nice "not" brags all around with ya. I doubt folks here are qualified to help you anyways.

QuirkyWaffle
QuirkyWaffle

Jaha humare sapne pure hote hain waha inka struggle shuru hota hai

ZippyMochi
ZippyMochi

You still haven't felt what love really is. It doesn't happen within a year or two, that's just your hormones fooling you.

Love is choosing to be with someone despite knowing all their faults and wrongs and still loving them despite everything. It's choosing to stick by someone through thick and thin. This is the hard part because many women will actually leave men during difficult times simply because they don't want to deal with it or have other options in the dating market to choose from.

All of this takes time, happens over years of togetherness. Your ideal time horizon for dating should be above 2-3 years, not less than that.

Don't need to flirt to be able to love honestly. Don't follow stupid influencers and hone your own game.

Best of luck with it.

PerkyWalrus
PerkyWalrus

Desi bhai. Flirting seems normal and logical when "one actually feels it *. Unless we feel for that person it does feel the way you are feeling.

Jab ishq hoga firse aapko dekhna flirting skill and compliments skill will be infinite (even for introverts)

GigglyRaccoon
GigglyRaccoon

Gareeb aadmi se mat pucho ke paisa kamate hai 😭😭

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