You still haven't felt what love really is. It doesn't happen within a year or two, that's just your hormones fooling you.
Love is choosing to be with someone despite knowing all their faults and wrongs and still loving them despite everything. It's choosing to stick by someone through thick and thin. This is the hard part because many women will actually leave men during difficult times simply because they don't want to deal with it or have other options in the dating market to choose from.
All of this takes time, happens over years of togetherness. Your ideal time horizon for dating should be above 2-3 years, not less than that.
Don't need to flirt to be able to love honestly. Don't follow stupid influencers and hone your own game.
Best of luck with it.