SquishyQuokka
SquishyQuokka

[Thread] Am I really a failure?

Here’s what I have been feeling nowadays, I suffer alone every night, smile during the day & tell friends only half and parents nothing so they don't worry about them.

I finally end up becoming a big ball of bottled up emotions.

I was trying to talk to my colleagues about this and no one seems to care. All they care about is their own life and that is fair.

Is life all about suffering and pain?

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GroovyBoba
GroovyBoba

You are overthinking it mate. And no one seems to care as all of them are suffering from the same thing and no one knows how to overcome it so they can't help you out.

Just focus on the good and important stuff, and it will probably work out in the long run.

And if it doesn't then...as you said you and your siblings were raised as Spartans right? So just keep fighting, like Spartans because there is glory in rising up again and again even if you lose in the end.

SquishyQuokka
SquishyQuokka
Gojek14mo

Someone I know crashed his Merc while street racing and he died on the spot. I still can’t shake that fact.

It has made me wonder whether there is any point escaping this pain or not

GroovyBoba
GroovyBoba

Well that's on them. Money, power and prestige doesn't mean you won't die if you do reckless shit.
We will all be 6 feet under some day just keep enjoying while it lasts

ZestyDonut
ZestyDonut
Oracle14mo

Life is a mix, where you'll experience each and every emotion known to mankind - the ups and downs, the sufferings and excitement, the pain and happiness, everything.

Sometimes some of these emotions can feel dominating the others, but that doesn't define life. Life is way above and beyond that. Every emotion we experience and life itself, is meant to be shared, and anyone who tells you otherwise has not understood the true meaning of life.

Sure your colleagues might not want to know about it, they have their own life and their own friends. But you have your friends and family. If you feel like you cannot share something with them, just have their company for a while. Maybe you're overwhelmed by emotions in that moment but eventually you'll be able to share it.

In the end, all that matters experiencing and enjoying all the things life is giving out to us. And you'll slowly start to realise, maybe it doesn't have to be all bad. Maybe you can let yourself lose and have a little fun. 🫰

SquishyQuokka
SquishyQuokka
Gojek14mo

Yeah, need to learn to live and love a little.

ZestyDonut
ZestyDonut
Oracle14mo

Yep, and whenever you find yourself surrounded by negative thoughts, just remember that it's just the way of life, and it won't be long before it's gone.

ZestyNarwhal
ZestyNarwhal
Meesho14mo

I follow this like crazy

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SquishyQuokka
SquishyQuokka
Gojek14mo

Lovely 💀

ZestyNarwhal
ZestyNarwhal
Meesho14mo

https://giphy.com/gifs/parks-and-rec-geek-chris-traeger-B6z8V6aweIp2w

This is the link in case people can't read it fully. 😄

PerkyWalrus
PerkyWalrus
CARS2414mo
  1. 🫂
  2. Grapevine cares
  3. Life mostly is about _______ (lemme think)

Elon pointed out good stuff.

Why not travel to the place you once used to overjoy in your childhood unless you're on notice period?

SquishyQuokka
SquishyQuokka
Gojek14mo

Yeah I need to live a little.

SparklyNoodle
SparklyNoodle

@Rhombus big fan of your responses.

SparklyBiscuit
SparklyBiscuit
Tekion14mo

Life is about both experience and growth, encompassing suffering and pain as integral parts of the journey. Without the negative aspects, the positive ones lose their significance. Embracing both is essential. Your current experience is entirely normal, and having emotions is a blessing in itself. Remember, time will pass, and in hindsight, you'll see how it has made you stronger and smarter. Be gentle with yourself. In times like these, owning your emotions and maintaining positive self-talk, as well as prayer, have been tremendously helpful for me. I understand it's easier said than done, but challenges are opportunities for growth. Feel free to DM me if you'd like to talk. Though I may not be very active, I'm happy to help whenever I can.

SquishyQuokka
SquishyQuokka
Gojek14mo

I appreciate the gesture. I can take care of myself but I’ve been wondering lately on a meta level whether it is even worth it.

SparklyBiscuit
SparklyBiscuit
Tekion14mo

Got you. Definitely not. They are part of life but there is a lot more to it.
Write it down. You'll wonder how therapeutic writing down emotions is.

ZestyQuokka
ZestyQuokka
Hinge14mo

I'm bad at emotional stuff. But here's sending virtual hug to you! 🫂
Your views and thoughts have been core to few perspectives in my life. You are way stronger than this!

SquishyQuokka
SquishyQuokka
Gojek14mo

🫂 Thanks @BiryaniEnthu

QuirkyCupcake
QuirkyCupcake

I'm not so successful to give gyan, but yeah, don't overthink too much. It happens to all at some point. Any problem ,there's a universal solution. Hit the gym 🏋️‍♂️ my brother,this is a sign. Trust me.

SquishyQuokka
SquishyQuokka
Gojek14mo

I go to the gym and do PPL

SquishyQuokka
SquishyQuokka
Gojek14mo

Thank you for this man

WigglyBanana
WigglyBanana

@salt shocking to see you write this You’ve always come across as a confident individual, who’s sure of what he’s doing at life. I know it may necessarily not be how it seems always.

If I can ask - how did these thoughts start?

P.S: love that even this started with the trademark Salt [thread]

SquishyQuokka
SquishyQuokka
Gojek14mo

Someone I know crashed his Merc while street racing and he died on the spot. I still can’t shake that fact which has led me to degenerate smoking and drinking. I’m losing my religion everyday.

BouncyBiscuit
BouncyBiscuit
Student14mo

Don't worry... Ye woqt bhi gujar jayega, start reading books and gym so exercise yoga meditation you can go for swimming... It will heal you

SquishyQuokka
SquishyQuokka
Gojek14mo

Trying buddy

GigglyBurrito
GigglyBurrito

I can feel you bro 🥺. Even I also feel the same. The main problem even after reaching to a certain level I’ve no one share my thoughts with. Couple of months back I started feeling frustrated and lonely because of too much work.

You know what, I was getting angry even on smaller issues etc etc. But again you have no one to share anything. Sometimes I even cry but I can’t do anything about it.

So I started doing 3 things.

  • I write journal. It is a place where I pour all of my emotions.
  • Joined Gym started working out.
  • Listen to bhajan/devotional songs.

Now I feel somewhat better but still fewer times I feel alone.

But then I’ve left specially this particular thing to Radharani. Only she will do something and whatever she will do I’ll accept this.

Be happy bro 🤞🏼. Akele aaye the aur akele hi jaaoge, that is the brutal reality of world 🙏🏼

SquishyQuokka
SquishyQuokka
Gojek14mo

I completely agree with you man

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