Those who were born ugly, what measures you took to improve your dating life?
Hi everyone
I am below average looking guy, 5 10, brown skin, ambivert personality with a bit weird humor.
I am still in a struggling phase of my career, but as my age, I should atleast start dating. I am not into hookups and all, and wish to find someone I can tie a knot with, in this struggling phase where we both will be tested with problems to solve together.
Unfortunately dating apps didn't worked. The Friends route, it didn't worked too. They said my hobbies were less masculine. I spend my time clicking pictures, sketching stuff and framing words in poems, after I get some free time lol.
I am a software engineer and I need to get more strong, and so I am working for it.
What exactly worked for you? If you can help
- Going to gym more -> already going, if anything else pls tell
- Tech Meetups -> definitely build some connections off my skills, but, no friends.
- Hobbies based clubs -> people are too busy to be regular, which is ok since it's life.
I want someone who is self build like me, I come from a middle class family, and high chances the one I need is also too busy in her life, working on her career, just like me, it's that, sometimes the distance between her and me, feels far too long.
I hope she is safe and doing well.
Bro I had no hopes in dating. Never thought I'd ever be able to impress a girl.
So instead, I focused on my health (boxing, not just gym), skills, sports and communication.
I always spoke with the girls respectfully, never crossed the line, compensated looks with humour, and more importantly, I never hid from them that I'm interested in girls.
I don't know what exactly worked, but I got more than 20 proposals so far.
20 isn't much, but for a guy like me, it's unbelievable.
Pls pls introspect and tell what I am doing wrong.
Because I am genuinely loosing hope
Nice man. I'm 25M, and pretty much same as the OP, only difference is I'm 6'2. I never had a girlfriend, never dated anyone, I'm sort of in between introvert and extrovert. I had crushes but never the gut to tell them my feelings.
If you don't mind telling:
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Apart from gym and boxing, what other skills, sports and communication are you talking about? Could you name a few please? I started doing gym 2 months ago and now thinking of doing boxing also. If not boxing then MMA, not sure yet.
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When you say 20 proposals, do you mean 20 marriage proposals? Or 20 proposals from girls wanting to be in a relationship with you?
Thank you
Expand your horizons brother. If you are not close to 30s I would suggest house parties. I don’t think one can just go and woo a girl in 1 shot and then get hooked up
House parties will help you in exposure you will either find your partner there or you will realise who is not to tie knot with.
Second, you will make mire friends and you can go out on social events, fests, etc.
And believe me wherever she is she must be doing fine.
It seems you are like me dating to marry but I would suggest you to drop that thought for a couple years or you will get roped in with a manipulative person who will thrive on your goodness bit for her own benefits 😉
I just turned 24.
Unfortunately, parties and all, nhi ja sakta.
But Han, I can try switching and accordingly finding more of my people I can hang out with
How to find genuine tech meet ups?
Once girls started earning money,they don't much see the color of skin ,so as there parents .. They only see your net worth and your position..
Keep trying dating apps, also you need the highest tier subscription to get any attention these days.
Practice speaking to women there and going on dates. Make sure your profile is top notch, competition is fierce. Add one good workout pic/video.
Learn to communicate better, learn more about women and what they tend to like/dislike. Learn more about human psychology. Make lots of friends.
Keep at it for a few years, you'll get there. Just try consistently, it'll work out.
Stop scrolling on social media platforms!!
